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Do Dogs Feel Love???

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#1 ·
We feel tremendous love for our dogs, and our dogs sure seem to love us. But is a dog really capable of emotions? Or are we just projecting our feelings onto our dogs?

Scientists avoid the subject because part of what sets humans apart from the animals is our ability to experience feelings. To say that animals actually have feelings, in the same way we do, would change everything – perhaps disrupt our entire position and standing in the animal kingdom.

However, any dog owner knows that dogs love completely and have a greater capacity for love than most people. If one were to describe the main characteristics of a dog, they would have to be:
1. strong affection
2. warm attachment
3. unselfish loyalty and benevolent concern for others

Wait a minute – those are the Merriam-Webster Dictionary definitions of love. Probably why the author of Dogs Never Lie About Love, Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson writes, “dogs are love.” So there isn’t a question of whether dogs love, the mystery is how they have such an enormous capacity for it. Dogs who are neglected or abused still show love for their human and wag their tails in hope of a little affection.

Dogs taken from abusive situations hold no grudges toward the human race. A half an ounce of kindness from a new person results in an abundance of affection from the formerly mistreated dog. Humans rarely have the capacity to so completely forgive and love under those circumstances.

Probably the biggest reason the dog has become man’s best friend is because we know that when it comes to love, a dog can always outdo us. The highest form of love, agape love, which is completely unconditional, is something that people often have to work at or grow into. Agape love seems to come naturally between parent and child, but it’s more difficult between husband and wife, and harder still between friends. To love someone regardless of what wrongs they have done you is very difficult for humans.

A dog, however, is born with an endless capacity for agape love, and doesn’t even have to work at it. You can be a complete grouch, ignore your dog, and refuse him your love. When you decide you’re ready to be sociable again, your dog doesn’t pay you back by ignoring you too. He’s just happy you’re there. More amazing still, is that the love that dogs and owners feel for each other lasts a lifetime. This is the ideal love humans strive for, but often fail at.

As Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson so beautifully writes in Dogs Never Lie About Love, “Learning to know somebody intimately is often the beginnings of dislike, sometimes even of contempt. Among humans, love often does not survive a growing acquaintance, but in a dog, love seems to grow with acquaintance, to get stronger, deeper. Even when fully acquainted with all our weaknesses, our treachery, our unkindness, the dog seems to love strongly – and this love is returned by most dog-loving humans. We, too, seem to love our dogs the more we get to know them. The bond grows between us and our dogs.”

This is why we need dogs. They do something for us that rarely a human companion can do. No matter how much you mess up your life, or how much wrong you do, no matter how many mistakes you make or how often you make them, regardless of your looks, income or social standing, your dog never judges you. He always thinks you are wonderful and loves you with all his heart.

Want to know more about dogs & love?
Here are some online articles on pet emotions:
Puppy Love - When Pets Fall for Each Other
Animal Emotions
 
#2 ·
This is great stuff. Thanks for posting it.
I've debated this subject before, mainly with people who do not live with dogs (I'm surprised that I even KNOW anyone like that!!!) I've come to the summary that, even if I beleive that dogs are in fact capable of feeling love, if they are NOT by any scientific measure, so what? They make US feel love, and that is a very, very good thing.
 
#3 ·
IMO? No, and don't slaughter me.

I don't believe dogs OR humans are capable of truly selfless acts.

Dogs are inherently selfish (and wonderful) creatures.

Dogs attach to humans because it makes them feel good, secure, etc. There's nothing wrong with that.

Name one thing a person can do that is truly selfless, where he would get NOTHING out of it. Even the greatest sacrifices in the world involve some type of self gratification IMO. And there's NOTHING wrong with that! We get something out of everything we do. Loving another person is no exception. We love people because they make us feel good and provide our mental, emotional, physical, and even financial needs, and we do the same for them.

I do believe dogs have emotion, absolutely!!!

Selfless love? No. I don't think it exists.

Once you understand this, by the way, you will become a very good dog trainer. Dogs, like people, simply DO WHAT WORKS in their worlds to get what they want, which is either stopping something bad or getting more of something good.
 
#5 · (Edited)
IMO? No, and don't slaughter me.

I don't believe dogs OR humans are capable of truly selfless acts.

Dogs are inherently selfish (and wonderful) creatures.

Dogs attach to humans because it makes them feel good, secure, etc. There's nothing wrong with that.

Name one thing a person can do that is truly selfless, where he would get NOTHING out of it. Even the greatest sacrifices in the world involve some type of self gratification IMO. And there's NOTHING wrong with that! We get something out of everything we do. Loving another person is no exception. We love people because they make us feel good and provide our mental, emotional, physical, and even financial needs, and we do the same for them.

I do believe dogs have emotion, absolutely!!!

Selfless love? No. I don't think it exists.

Once you understand this, by the way, you will become a very good dog trainer. Dogs, like people, simply DO WHAT WORKS in their worlds to get what they want, which is either stopping something bad or getting more of something good.

ACC, I love you, but...
As both a mother, and a very good dog trainer I disagree with you on this on many levels.
That said, I won't get into THIS debate on the Forum simply because it's an extremely "labor intensive" one ;), and today's labor involves lots of dog grooming!

I'll leave it with this:

Simply put, "Love" is not an emotion, but is an "Action Taken," that is both "Selfless" and promotes "Well Being."

According to Yahweh's word in 1 Corinthians 13, Yahweh sums up what "Love" is and what "Love" is not. In every case "Love" is described as a "Selfless Beneficial Act," and not as a "self-centered emotion." "Love" is the attempt at or accomplishment of satisfying the needs (not wants) of others, and not the satisfying of personal needs or vanities. Giving gifts at Xmas time or birthdays is not an act of "Love." Getting emotionally upset with your spouse or sweetheart, because you feel unloved is not a result of "Love." "True Love" expects no return. "True Love" is not a give in order to receive relationship.
 
#7 ·
I have done a lot of seemingly "selfless" acts rescuing dogs- crazy wild stuff, driving all night, spending thousands of dollars, giving up friends, losing relationships... especially over those Salukis that consumed two solid YEARS of my life.

But I still 'got' something out of it. I feel good about myself. I got pleasure when those dogs went to new homes. I still smile when I get photos of them.
 
#8 ·
Are you telling me you think dogs ever listen to people "just because they are dogs" and they "love" us? Dog's want to please? And all that?

I'll not agree with that... who ARE "we" anyway to think another creature should listen to and obey us just "because" ???

Your dog may well enjoy obedience, and perform because he enjoys the act of performing, because he finds interaction rewarding. But even that is not the same as thinking dogs "want to please" humans "just because" they are dogs and we are humans.

Dogs satisify our egos on so many levels- that is why we love them.
 
#10 ·
Of course I believe dogs feel love. I see and feel it everyday from our crew and between our crew. You should see how the golden girls take care of their little springer brother..... when he first came to us in such a sick, weakened state, they instictively knew and babied him. They'd lay with him and cuddle, even go get bits of food and bring to him. Another scenario, Maggie, our resident scared-y-cat, while out walking, she is heeling very nicely and all of a sudden, bolts right in front of me so I nearly fell over her. I started to scold her but then noticed her in "fight" stance looking back off to my right. When I turned, I see she had placed herself between me and this huge Rottie who was off lead and charging!!! Believe me, I had never felt fear with a dog until that moment and here was our little Miss Meek protecting me. I consider that love! Luckily, Mr. Rottie's owner was running after him and nothing bad happened. I then turned my scolding on him, telling him to get his ----- dog on a leash !
 
#11 ·
Excellent question Bella! I think there capable of a lot of things, much more then science tells us, but I don't think they have feelings as we humans do or on the level with us. They are capable of loving there owners, as we owners are capable of loving them though and proof would be in there protection of us, warning us to something on property, etc. But this is all instinct and how a pack works in the wild for survival and territory.

As for the abused animals that isn't what I would call love, dogs thinks differently then we do, they live for today and not in the past so move on which is very much unlike humans, we tend to live in the past, present and future. This is why dogs can be rehabilitated so much faster then a human can.

Maybe they are the true examples of what Love really is, and maybe we humans are the ones that have it all messed up.
 
#14 ·
In my opionion, I do believe that dogs are cabable of love. I also believe that dogs as well as people are cabable of doing completley selfless acts. What about all of these dogs that save and rescue their owners lives, and I know that there is a parent out there who wouldn't give thier life for thier child. These acts show the true being of what it is to feel love, not only to receive it, but also to give it.
 
#15 · (Edited)
Hmmm...I'd have to refresh my memory on Maslow's Hierarchy. If I remember correctly, we might not be that much different, but we do things much differently of course.

I remember my mom getting very sick once. My childhood dog would not leave her side. She stayed beside her for 2 weeks and I had to feed her in my mom's room. Was that respect for my Mom as the pack leader? I find love and respect to sometimes go paw and hand.

I don't know if my dogs love me, but I sure love them...
 
#16 ·
i saw KayCee griee for Hunter. She was under the table and not on the sofa with me (and whre hunter shtook honey to pull KayCee ut of the depression after Hunter died. I know she truly cared abut her brother and he about her. When she had knee surgres he would lay beside her and lick her face.

Why did Grey Friars Bobby spend many years sleeping on his master's grave, only leaving to eat? His master could do nothing for him, others could. But he prefered to stay with the he had loved and who had loved him so much. That had to be love.

Just as with humans, i think some dogs love more than others, some probably not at all as some humans are like that. Protecting family may be instinct, but that would also be instinct with humans and when a Mom or Dad puts thir life on the line for a child, it is called LOVE. So is it instinct or is it love? I say love.
 
#18 ·
According to Stephen Budiansky in "The Truth about Dogs" dogs are self-serving, opportunistic creatures who 'do' only for their benefit. They started out hanging around people because people leave food laying around...food that was no longer useful to people. That would be carcass parts and bones. Feasting on these scraps was much easier and safer than hunting on their own.

They also found protection in that most of the predators that humans fought off were predators of dogs as well.

According to Mr. Budiansky, dogs don't feel love, they don't act out of love, they have no concept of love.

They obey because they've been conditioned to. Sit means food. We think of it as reward, positive reinforcement but to them it's just food. They're loyal because they don't know anything else except the pack. The human family is their pack.

I love Penny. I love her for all her 'Penniness'. And yet when we kenneled her in Slidell, LA while we went on a cruise, she was quiet for only 2 days and then returned to her regular self. The staff told me this. She was happy to see them, played with them and gave no obvious sign of missing us. She recognized us when we got back and gave us the same greeting as if we'd gone to grocery store for an hour instead of being gone for 7 days.

It was hard to read Mr. Budiansky's words that shoot down all the theories about love, loyalty and sacrifice, but in the end, I had to agree with him.

When I look at Penny objectively, I can see everything he's talking about.
 
#24 ·
ACC, when I look carefully at Penny and through the haze of all the 'doggie mistique' I see the animal that is really in there.

She has everything she needs for survival without us: teeth, prey drive, cunning and speed. She could be a killing machine if her survival depended on it.

I was most impressed when we first got her. She had to give up nearly every instinct she had ...she was born a 'dog' not a house pet...so that she could become a member of our pack. She was confined to the vinyl floor in the kitchen. Read: that was her den. The carpeted areas then became 'outside her den' and suitable places to go potty. These were not 'accidents', she knew fully what she was doing and it made sense to her. She had to learn to play nice according to OUR rules which meant no teeth and no paws. Well, that's alls she's got. Very confusing for her. I was really imressed that she not only made the transition from 'baby dog' to house pet, but she made it without protest.

There aren't very many people who could do that!
 
#26 ·
I truly believe that they "love" us as they understand the word. To use a human word to try and explain a feeling from another species kinda gets you on thin ice. My definition of love is probably different from anyone elses, and so on and so on....but the bonding that takes place between human and canine is certainly love in our definition and I strong believe it means even more so to our packs. Dogs live completely in the moment, not the past nor the future, those times they play with us, lay with us, walk with us, etc....and do so with full ackowledgement that we are part of their pack and their Alpha is the highest degree of devotion they can give. Is it love??? To human way of thinking - bet'yer ass.
 
#32 ·
Okay, going out on a limb, sitting face the tree trunk and sawing between me and trunk:

Mother Teresa's journals were recently read and revealed that she lived in constant fear of being an inadequate Christian upon whom, God looked down and was diasppointed. Thus her good works were her pennance on earth so she could go to heaven. Those are basically her own words, not my judgement of her. I think she's a saint.

Now if she admits to not being altruistic, then we all have to. Including our dogs.