adopt your foster dog if it meant that you had to give up fostering??
This is my measuring stick too. Bless you for taking in a hard case and working with him, his life is better because of you, it's all too possible he would not be here without you.He is beautiful and is lucky to have you as his foster family!
The deciding factor for my adopting both Jasper and Daniel was that the adoptive home would have to be a better home for them than my home. With both of them, I had absolutely no doubt that I was the best home for them. Jasper because of his very sensitive nature and his bond with me and Danny because he needed the kind of exercise and training that I was willing to commit to.
Good luck with Joseph and your very difficult decision.
Thank you! It makes perfect sense and that is where we are right now. We MAY be Joseph's ONLY hope at the life he deserves. We may be 'forced' by circumstance - to give him a home for life - whether we adopt or keep him as a 'permanent foster', and I suppose we can only hope to get him to the point where we will be able to foster again.This is my measuring stick too. Bless you for taking in a hard case and working with him, his life is better because of you, it's all too possible he would not be here without you.
I am acquainted with fosters who feel pressured to adopt a foster dog because it will be hard to find a new home because the dog has special needs in one form or another. I always feel bad for those fosters because they put in so much effort and work with the "broken" babies, I feel like they should be able to choose to a dog they want who has all the characteristics they prefer, not feel forced to keep a dog who has issues that may not be their ideal dog.
I hope that makes sense. I'm not saying that's where you are in this situation, I know you love Joseph and want the best for him. As you said, there is the right home for him out there and if it is yours, you both win.
It's not a choice I could make either. Like you have experienced with Charlie, sometimes the perfect home is the foster home and they do become wonderful family members. I don't think that's bad! I just want the dog and the people to be happy!Thank you! It makes perfect sense and that is where we are right now. We MAY be Joseph's ONLY hope at the life he deserves. We may be 'forced' by circumstance - to give him a home for life - whether we adopt or keep him as a 'permanent foster', and I suppose we can only hope to get him to the point where we will be able to foster again.
So begs the question: what do foster homes do with the 'unadoptable' broken dogs? We take them in with the hope and promise of a better life for them, we owe it to them to keep that promise, and it is not an option to say - 'you are not good enough, you are not the dog I would choose, you are too much trouble - you have to go' and 'going' means 'dying' because I don't want you and no one else does either. It is just not a choice I could make.
I am a 'foster failure'- adopted my boy Charlie, a rescue with problems who had been abused and rehomed too many times, and had all but given up on the human race. Without a doubt - this adoption was 'meant to be' -it has been a fantastic journey with no regrets. So I do know that these 'broken dogs' can and do become fantastic friends and family members, and sometimes we don't get to choose 'who is family'.