[Bender]

Anyone else ever run into this? You don't like training solo, so find someone to buddy up with for support and help, but that person nit picks everything you do?

I'm reminded of this because this person I haven't trained with for quite a while for that reason. Anyway they asked if I wanted to go out and do some agility with them but not sure if I want that. It's bad enough that I don't like to trial if they're going to the same event. But, it'd be good to get out to different places and have another opinion (she does have some good insight mixed in with the comments) on things. Like she'll have a good idea for handling, but then say four or five things about how I did this or that wrong (like I shouldn't correct my dog for ignoring me and getting her toy unless I can do so before she has the toy.... in other words if she ignores me, goes and gets her toy and I can't get to her first, she gets to keep it?). Very negative in general which is tough - I do the dog stuff to have fun, not just to 'win'....

Is there a nice way to say 'shut it' to someone? :

Lana

 

[boomers_dawn]

That's a tough one. I never had that problem. I think most people with good social skills know not to give advice unless it is requested.

It sounds like she's trying to help you. But you don't want all that help.


Maybe you could find some way to put the focus on you, like say, "I'm sorry I get confused when you give me too much feedback, could you keep it to one comment" or something along those lines.

One time at drop in someone kept talking and wouldn't shut up; I told him I was having trouble paying attention and asked could he please not talk to me so much. It worked just fine.

Good luck!

 

[LuckyPup]

I am sure there is a nice way to tell someone to shut it!

(assuming I have this correct). I would say "I really appreciate your ideas on handling. Your insight is wonderful and has helped a lot. But there are certain things we do not agree on. Just as I do not critique your way I would appreciate if you would do the same!"

Hope this helps!