Hi Lynn,Hi All,
My bf and I (40s aged couple) just got a beautiful Golden who we named Reggie. He is 11 weeks and we've had him for 3 days. He is a very loving, gentle, non-bitey puppy who responds pretty well to our "training voices" so far, which I'm grateful for. We are trying to crate train and I've done tons of research and have had lots of friends tell me what worked for them...but we are really struggling. Reggie absolutely screams and barks and whines and whimpers when in the crate away from us. For the first 2 nights, I slept on the floor beside his crate (which is attached to a play pen for long-term confinement which officially starts tomorrow (i've had 3 days at home with him but have to go back to work). Last night my bf and I decided to let him try to cry himself calm and not go in there or respond no matter what (unless for a pee break). We put him to bed at 10pm with a kong with peanut butter and some soothing music playing beside the crate. He barked and screamed (it sounds like he's being murdered) for 20mins and then slept for 30 and then back to screaming, then a bit of sleeping etc. ...on and on for the whole night. We didn't cave until 3am. I went to take him out for a pee (he didn't go, so i'm guessing he can hold it for the full night...). When I brought him back in, the screaming started again and my bf couldn't stand it anymore and went and got him and brought him to our bed. I wasn't ok with this. I feel like that's asking for trouble and recurring screaming tonight and onward. So I brought him back to his room, put him in the playpen (not the crate) and slept beside him again. he calmed in about 5 minutes and was quiet for the next 2 hours (but of course i didn't sleep a wink).
I'm really worried that if we don't figure this out fast, he's going to have serious separation anxiety as an adult, which I know is sooo difficult to handle. I have heard that bringing a crate into the bedroom works for a lot of young puppies, but I worry that he's still looking to us for comfort. But, we have to do something that works for all three of us and our situation.
Any thoughts on this? (i've heard all the "make the crate a fun place to be" type of advice...and you can only do so much to make it fun in a matter of a day or two when you have to put him in it that night).
Thanks for any help,
I also recently got a puppy and had a similar problem. Having the crate in our room a couple days really helped. He still cried and barked but only for about 20 minutes and wouldn’t really wake up until about 5 or 6am. He’s almost 5 months now and he sleeps in his own room well. We put some treats in his bed and say good night with no problem. All puppies are different but I would try putting him in the room with you guys, then moving it away with time. Best of luck!