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You had 17 positive posts and one not so positive post. I know it is hard to look at the bright side when you are feeling so sick, but think of all the support you could have here. I do understand where you are coming from, I can let something I read on a messageboard make me really irritated, but then I have to step back and remember that I am in charge of my emotions, not somebody on a messageboard.

I do hope you stay and allow us to be here as a support group for you.

For what it's worth, I "know" Taz and have "known" her for a few years. I think that the way it came across was not intended the way it sounded. I have the same problem where I say something and it comes out way harsher than I mean for it to come out.
 

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If the OP is still around I'd like to make a suggestion that doesn't have anything to do with the puppers. Have you considered looking for a support group for the issue you have by chance? If not let me know if you're interested and I'll see what resources I can use to dig one up if you're interested. It honestly sounds like you need a break...a break away from the house/kids/hubby/dog/cats...etc for a few hours. Support groups can help with giving you time away for a good reason and be able to "vent" to others in the same spot as you who might be able to help. There's also ALOT of support here, that you've seen, but it's a public board so there are times you may not get the exact answer you're looking for. Take it with a grain of salt and use the board for it's advantages and ignore the rest. No matter what you're choice, wether to leave the board or not, I hope things work out for the best for you and the family(including the pup).
 

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Amber's dad has a really good idea-
 

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I think the timing in general is just bad. You can't do it alone.

I'll use ourselves as an example.

Two years ago, we adopted an Australian shepherd, my husband is in the Navy and was actually home. I wasn't in school, and we only had three kids. I was OVERWHELMED beyond BELIEF!!! I finally gave the puppy back to the breeder.

NOW, we have a golden, sheltie, and a foster sheltie... FOUR kids, and I'm in graduate school, Dh is still in the Navy... but what changed was, him and the kids are helping out. I've got more going on now, but we handle it with relative ease cause all the duties are shared. Before it was all on me and I started to crumble.

Maybe the timing is just bad, having a puppy, unless you're single - should be a family affair. It shouldn't all rest on your shoulders albeit the majority should, you should still be able to get help when you need it.
 

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Oh and I second Amber's dad suggestion... reaching out for help before there is a problem really helps. GRF and the sheltie rescue here have really helped me. It really helps to talk to others. Its kind of like parenting, you tend to do better the better of a support network you have cause somedays you will just feel like pulling your hair out.
 

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Thank you. First I wanted to sincerely thank all of you for your support and encouraging posts and emails. I have been unable to be on line for a while. The messages from you all encouraging me not to let ONE BAD APPLE ruin my being here really hit a nerve. Thank you all again. Just a quick update....Been a LONG week. Spent Sunday in ER with bad news, then another unexpected diagnosis via phone on Monday....Yes, all way overwhelming. My husband and I hate to have to get rid of Lucy, but it looks as though there is no other way. We will be checking with friends of ours to see if they could possibly 'foster' her for a while. Our neighbors also offered to help, so that way our kids could still go see and play with het. I'm hoping we can find a good solution. Our girls hate the thought of losing Lucy, and honestly, so do I. Thank you to those of you who offered suggestions and didn't just cut me down for trying to find a solution. I'm hoping this will all work out. Thank you again.

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I'm so sorry to hear that you're having more difficulty with your health. :( Lots of thoughts and prayers coming your way.
 

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I am sorry that you are facing even more problems. What state are you located in? If nothing else, maybe one of us can take Lucy for you. It does sound like you have done a wonderful job with her, but puppies can be hard even for the healthiest of us to raise.
 

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I hope that your medical issues are able to be resolved and that you start feeling better soon.

I am not sure where you live, but if there is a 4H group near you that has a dog group, you might try contacting them to see if one of their "senior" kids might like a "project". Helping you out by "fostering" the puppy, and training her during their dog classes... it could be a win win situation for both of you, and when you feel better, the puppy could be brought back into your own home. Another option would be to contact a local Golden Retriever, or All Breed Kennel club and find out if someone is looking for a Junior dog...
 

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Thank you. First I wanted to sincerely thank all of you for your support and encouraging posts and emails. I have been unable to be on line for a while. The messages from you all encouraging me not to let ONE BAD APPLE ruin my being here really hit a nerve. Thank you all again. Just a quick update....Been a LONG week. Spent Sunday in ER with bad news, then another unexpected diagnosis via phone on Monday....Yes, all way overwhelming. My husband and I hate to have to get rid of Lucy, but it looks as though there is no other way. We will be checking with friends of ours to see if they could possibly 'foster' her for a while. Our neighbors also offered to help, so that way our kids could still go see and play with het. I'm hoping we can find a good solution. Our girls hate the thought of losing Lucy, and honestly, so do I. Thank you to those of you who offered suggestions and didn't just cut me down for trying to find a solution. I'm hoping this will all work out. Thank you again.

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Just wondering what your location is in regards to finding Lucy a new home? Also, a ten and six year old CAN do a lot to help at home. I know this from experience. It's not ideal, but sometimes it has to happen. My dad died when I was ten, and my mom had to go to work, leaving me alone - all alone some, but for my lab/chow, Jetta. I could take care of Jetta all on my own too. I knew what to do and what not to do. It wasn't neglect or abuse. 100 years ago, heck 50 years ago kids that age were often expected to raise their younger siblings.
 

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I am sorry that you are facing even more problems. What state are you located in? If nothing else, maybe one of us can take Lucy for you. It does sound like you have done a wonderful job with her, but puppies can be hard even for the healthiest of us to raise.
I hope that your medical issues are able to be resolved and that you start feeling better soon.

I am not sure where you live, but if there is a 4H group near you that has a dog group, you might try contacting them to see if one of their "senior" kids might like a "project". Helping you out by "fostering" the puppy, and training her during their dog classes... it could be a win win situation for both of you, and when you feel better, the puppy could be brought back into your own home. Another option would be to contact a local Golden Retriever, or All Breed Kennel club and find out if someone is looking for a Junior dog...
Both great suggestions, I was hoping you would post what state you are in so one of us might be able to help.

If anything I am so glad you checked in again as I felt so bad that one of the posts upset you and wanted you to see all of the hugs and encouragement that poured out of this board. I sincerely hope you are able to resolve your medical issues in some way and are feeling better soon. I hope you are able to find a good solution for your puppers, so you don't have to worry.

HUGS.
 

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Thank you all again. I spoke with our neighbor today. They are more than happy to take Lucy for months, a year, whatever. They have a fenced in yard and walk their dog (collie mix) daily. He works part time. She doesn't. So it will work out great. SHe said our girls can come play with her daily or whenever they want. They are really great people. She said they could keep her as long as I needed them to. Even indefinetly. It put my mind at ease. I am gonig to talk to my husband when he gets home. It will be a couple of weeks before the surgery, so, we can enjoy the time left with her. Thanks to you all.

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I told husband when he got home. He said that's good to fall back on if we do actually need to. We still hope we can work it out and keep her. We are going to fence the yard, that will help some with the freedom of both dogs going out etc. One way or another , it will work. Thanks again! :)

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That is wonderful that your neighbor is so willing to help. And the kids will get to see her and play with her.
 
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