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I have recently posted about some of our Golden Retriever, Edgar's health issues but am now looking for advice about how he'll react with our baby on the way.

I am 37 weeks pregnant and could be bringing home our baby any time now. Edgar has always been very gentle (yet very hyper since he's only 7 months old) but lately Im starting to get a little more concerned. He's been acting a little different and being more disobedient and stubborn lately.

He has been around my 3 year old brother a lot and as long as they are running and playing its great, he jumps and licks a lot but never hurts him or gets aggressive toward him. However, a friend brought over her 6 month old baby and while I was holding her, Edgar seemed to get very jealous and kept jumping on me. He seemed like he was just curious but Im worried he could accidentaly hurt the baby without knowing.

Have any of you had young golden retrievers and brought a baby home? How did you prepare your dog? How did the dog react?

Edgar has been our baby for 7 months and gets all our attention. Will he get jealous of the baby and surprise us with aggression or something?
 

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Better go get a doll and get let Edgar get used to you carrying a 'baby'.... Mayybe some positive reward / treat when he reacts in an appropriate manner. I think they also have recordings of crying babies... that might be an idea just to desensitize Edgar to some of the new noises that willbe in the house. And if the baby's room going to be off limits... better you make that change before the little one arrives.

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I highly doubt your golden puppy will be aggressive! He will probably love your baby as much as you do. He was just acting like a normal puppy when you were holding your friend's baby. He's a dog, he doesn't know it's a baby. It's up to you to do obedience training with him so he minds you. But he will need attention when you bring the baby home so he knows you still love him.

I had goldens when my kids were babies and so did my daughters. Give him lots of attention and training and he will be fine with the baby.

Here is my grandson and his golden:


 

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Remember your Edgar is coming into his own adolescence - a time of some insecurity and bravado mixed in with some a somewhat short attention span all at once!
Could he accidentally hurt (knocking over...stepping on) the baby sure... accidents happen. Aggressively attack...doubtful....

Keep his nails trimmed short - a nail grinder to smooth the edges would be great..
If he is not crate trained....or not used to staying calmly behind a barrier...that would be something to work on now while you have a bit of time.
Working on his stays now and after the baby comes will be really helpful....

Expect him to sniff, lick and inspect the baby from tip of his head of the bottom of his feet.....your baby will survive the inspections just fine...
Expect Edgar to be able to sniff out a dirty diaper from a mile a way!
Expect him to be a bit 'on-alert' until he gets use to the new sounds, smells and routine that the new baby brings to your family.
Expect him to try new, sometimes naughty, behaviors - partly because the rhythm of the house is different and because he is a dopey teenager!

Dad will be wondering how he can help you when the baby comes...
Tell him to take Edgar on some good long walks and/or sign up for an obedience class.
It will be good for the dog...Good for you (you can nap or nurse in peace) and good for your husband (to feel useful in a meaningful way and get some exercise...)

There are several members on the forum that are expecting babies in the next couple of weeks. Please stick around...you have friends here!
 

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I wish I had a digital picture of my Keisha from when my son was a baby. She was a lab/golden, but totally a golden in looks and temperament (other than being black). When I brought my son home, Keisha was just under a year old. She laid under his bassinett and claimed him from day one. She was my unofficial babysitter once my son got older and went outside to play. She kept an eye on him and when I would go outside and call her, she would come home. Sometimes dragging my son by his arm. Sometimes I would have to ask her where he was and she would lead me to him.

He was her boy.
 

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Thank you so much! You guys have been encouraging and I am feeling A LOT better. Maybe it was just the hormones but I was starting to get frustrated, annoyed and feeling like just giving up!

I know Edgar will be a great dog in the future and we absolutely love him. After reading what you guys have said, Im sure this annoying stage will be worth it.

He has graduated from puppy and advanced puppy class but we havent kept up on the training like we should have and he has definitely become stubborn and not as quick.

Also, he seems to do better with me than my husband. Is that normal for male goldens? I don't know why but Edgar just listens to me a lot better and quicker.

we dont have a yard and we live in Alaska so it's been hard for him to get outside a lot (specially with a fear of being on the ice since Im pregnant). But its starting to warm up and melt a little and we'll be able to get outside a lot more! Its perfect timing because I think he is just getting bored and hyper and needs to run!

I have another question, what do you reccomend for us to do when guests come to visit me and the baby. Edgar does well with not jumping on me and my husband because he knows better, but he absolutely LOVES company because he thinks he can get away with whatever he wants and gets very very hyper. He is crate trained but whines constantly if he is in there and someone is here he doesnt know. There is a possibility I will have a c section so I definitely dont want him jumping up on me.
What can we do to enforce the no jumping? What would you reccomend to do in these situations?
 

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Edgar is hitting his teenage years, so his disobedience may not be entirely that you haven't kept up with his training. It's his age, too! Get a doll, wrap a receiving blanket around it, and practice going out for walks using the stroller. Edgar will need to the practice so he doesn't get run over, and you can devote the next couple of weeks to getting used to stroller and dog together. As for the jumping, between being very pregnant and then with new baby, you're probably not going to want to practice no jumping at this particular time. If you do, you can teach a reliable sit, you can leash him and stand on the leash, you can ask your guests not to speak to him or to pet him for five minutes after they arrive to give him a chance to settle, you can have your guests turn their backs to him and ignore him....or any combination of the above. For the short term, freeze a stuffed Kong and when folks come to see your new baby (congratulations), crate him with something to do like get the treats out of the Kong. And yes, have your hubby take him for long walks, both before he goes to work and when he comes home. You're not going to get sit down, uninterrupted dinners anyway for a few months, so might as well wear the dog out:)
 

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You can start now with the baby things, put them out and let him explore - if he goes to pick up something that's not 'his' you can work on getting him to leave it alone. Also work on his down or 'off' command - whatever means 'back off' so he'll listen to you.

The dogs here are pretty good about baby. My border collie was in love with my son, thought he was the greatest thing ever. One day though he came in and jumped up on the bed, landing on my son - poor dog flew out of the room and was horrified that he'd hurt his 'boy' and didn't jump on the bed without looking ever again.

The house rule here is that if the dogs/cat doesn't like what the human kid is doing, THEY have to leave the area. So if baby is playing and climbs on one of the dogs and they're not into being a mountain, I just take them out of the room.

If you can, get some guests to come over and work on his manners, or have your other half work on them when the guests come. Or do the kong in the crate thing, whatever's easier for you.

Hope your little one comes without a hassle!

Lana
 

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Thank you so much! You guys have been encouraging and I am feeling A LOT better. Maybe it was just the hormones but I was starting to get frustrated, annoyed and feeling like just giving up!

I know Edgar will be a great dog in the future and we absolutely love him. After reading what you guys have said, Im sure this annoying stage will be worth it.

He has graduated from puppy and advanced puppy class but we havent kept up on the training like we should have and he has definitely become stubborn and not as quick.

Also, he seems to do better with me than my husband. Is that normal for male goldens? I don't know why but Edgar just listens to me a lot better and quicker.

we dont have a yard and we live in Alaska so it's been hard for him to get outside a lot (specially with a fear of being on the ice since Im pregnant). But its starting to warm up and melt a little and we'll be able to get outside a lot more! Its perfect timing because I think he is just getting bored and hyper and needs to run!

I have another question, what do you reccomend for us to do when guests come to visit me and the baby. Edgar does well with not jumping on me and my husband because he knows better, but he absolutely LOVES company because he thinks he can get away with whatever he wants and gets very very hyper. He is crate trained but whines constantly if he is in there and someone is here he doesnt know. There is a possibility I will have a c section so I definitely dont want him jumping up on me.
What can we do to enforce the no jumping? What would you reccomend to do in these situations?
Your are given a pass on feeling frustrated and annoyed and feeling helpless - even those of us that are not pregnant feel that way from time to time. Ease up on yourself.

Yes he is a teenager and some of the naughtiness is age-related, but it doesn't mean you ignore it. No one wants any of his naughtiness to become permanent behaviors. Brushing up on Edgard's obedience will do the whole family a world of good.

Your husband is probably more consistent with his responses to Edgar. makes perfect sense to me. You probably don't have the same energy and focus to deal with him that you had in the past. Let your husband take the lead with Edgar. Watch how he speaks and physically interacts with him. Pick up some ideas.
 

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I'm sure you got all these responses, but I had to prepare my two for an infant coming into our home. They were 4.5 at the time and never really been around too many children.

I made sure I practiced with them. I bought a car seat and would carry it in when arriving at home. I'd put it on the floor and they did at first need to sniff it out, but they got used to it being carried and placed and then just thought of it as a piece of furniture.

I also bought a stroller. I have a very large kitchen. I walked an empty stroller around the kitchen every day. I let them see the travel bed and all other furniture we were going to use. I did have a doll I carried, but I never placed it in anything if I wasn't going to be right there. I didn't want Tucker to have the opportunity to grab and run! A doll doesn't respond like a baby and I didn't want to set up a bad training opportunity.

I was very proud of my two. They both did really well with the baby. Shadow did try to lick him all the time and Tucker pulled his sock off once when someone else was holding him, but they were really, really good with him, which really surprised me. Tucker is a grab and run type of dog. He never once tried to grab the baby. He just seemed to know he shouldn't.

The other thing that really helped was when the baby and the parent came home from the hospital I was waiting outside with the dogs and the stroller. We put the bably in the stroller and walked the dogs up and down the street with the baby a few times. We walked in and everything was fine. Had I not, I know they would have gotten overly excited and made it difficult.
 

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Hi! Congrats!

Today is my due date. Currently my Golden is staying elsewhere until we are settled. But I am not worried. I just didn't want to have to worry about what to do with her on the big day, since I don't have a pet sitter I can trust.

Be sure the dog gets attention and so forth- but you will be okay! They know things are going on.
 

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Make sure you bring home an item from the hospital for your dog to smell and get used to the smell before the baby comes home. That's what we did. Our dog could have cared less and really didn't care for all the crying! Even when she started crawling, he'd get up and leave. She could pet him and do whatever but most of the time he'd just leave! Now we have Tucker who we adopted and she can climb all over him and he just soaks it up!
 

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We got Bailey when our baby was 4 months old. He's a year now and he is sooo gentle. The baby is just afraid of him cause he's so much bigger and has smacked her with his tail when passing by.

Its challenging at first but it has been done before. I would just make sure that you have adequate help for those first few months because you'll be on little sleep, but the dog will still need to try and keep a regular routine. Its a big change for him and the more you can keep his routine the easier the transition should be and less likely he'll be apt to react badly.

Although I will say our golden is soooo wonderful and gentle around our kids.
 

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He has graduated from puppy and advanced puppy class but we havent kept up on the training like we should have and he has definitely become stubborn and not as quick.
Is there any way you can start up again? There's nothing better for surviving the adolescent periods and bringing a great companion Golden out the other side than developing more and more of a working relationship together.

Also, he seems to do better with me than my husband. Is that normal for male goldens? I don't know why but Edgar just listens to me a lot better and quicker.
This is common, but it's nothing you can't overcome. A man's lower voice is simply more intimidating to a dog. We can speak in pitches much closer to dogs' warning growls for each other. Be firm, and when you do need to use your voice to provide a negative for the dog, pitch it as low as you can.

I have another question, what do you reccomend for us to do when guests come to visit me and the baby. Edgar does well with not jumping on me and my husband because he knows better, but he absolutely LOVES company because he thinks he can get away with whatever he wants and gets very very hyper.

What can we do to enforce the no jumping? What would you reccomend to do in these situations?
Get a couple of friends with a good sense of humor to help you by practicing a controlled visit. Teach them exactly what you do to stop Edgar from jumping and have them behave exactly as you do. It'll help if Edgar is nice and tired before you practice. I favor an ignoring method, where a jump from the dog makes the guest fold his arms and turn to face the wall, like a statue. Guests only come back to life when the dog behaves. Once you've done some practice, prepare your "real" guests before they come over so they can help train. Most people have a really good sense of humor about it. Once he realizes that all visitors will make jumping not fun in exactly the same way, he'll probably stop trying and offer a different behavior, like sitting. Reward that with attention and maybe a little treat.

It can also help to ask your guests to ignore the dog for the first few minutes they're there so arrivals are a little less exciting.
 

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Another thing to do is to put a dog cookie jar where on the change table, so every diaper change the dog(s) can do a sit or down and then get their cookie when the job's all done.... helps keep them from being too ignored.

Lana
 

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Many training facilities have class for parents of the 4 pawed kind, getting ready for the two footed kind. I know our facility in CT has a class. There is also a great Web site, I'll have to find the link, that gives advice. Is it called Storks and??? It will come to me.
 

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PS I won't be having a hospital birth so I won't be doing the bring something for the dog to sniff thing... but I am not worried about my Rigby at all... and the other two won't return until baby is settled, and I will just use common sense when I go get them and bring them home and do introductions :)
 
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