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Remy's Mom!
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Anyone here have adult ADD? I was diagnosed as a teen and I've been able to get by without medication until now. Things are starting to get more difficult and I was wondering what other's experiences with add and medications are?
 

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My neices husband and their oldest daughter have ADHD/ADD and it has been a battle for them their whole lives. Thankfully when medication is correct they do wonderfully, but neither like the way they feel so don't take their meds as they should. This causes trouble at work/school and makes life a lot tougher.

I hope you can find ways to combat this and follow your Doctor's instructions. This is treatable, but in extreme cases, can be a struggle. I do not know what medications they are on, but know they go in twice a year for bloodwork and just a talk time with their Specialist/Therapist.
 

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My son and step daughter have it. Neither is on any medication. My son is 38 and while he had problems in school, he has become very successful without the benefit of collage.
My step daughter is 17. When she was about 3, I noticed that diet played a big part in her disorder. If I gave her anything with red food dye in it, she had the worst, most uncontrollable day. I would only feed her all natural foods. Nothing with artificial colors, preservatives, or sweeteners. When she started school, I knew immediately when she ate something that she shouldn't in school. It was very difficult to monitor her diet as she got older. Now, at 17, she realizes the importance of it and is very careful about her diet.
My brother was diagnosed when he was much younger. They put him on ritalin. My mother thought that it made him act dopey and took him off. He, too, had problems in school but later in life became successful.
In my limited experiences with it, I have noticed that people/children who have it are very intelligent. They just seem to have self control issues in their younger years but as they grow older all of their energy is what makes them successful.
I am seeing more and more literature that is connecting diet and ADHD.
Hope this helps.
 

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I have adult ADD. I was diagnosed also as a teen, was on medication and that really helped... but then when I turned 18, the insurance company decided since I was 18 I didn't NEED the medication anymore so they stopped covering it. It was WAY too expensive to buy out of pocket ($200/month) so I stopped.

It was REALLY hard for me to deal at first... for years I struggled, but with the help of some classmates (I'm a psych student) I've developed ways of handling it.

* I'm VERY forgetful. I make lists. I have a Blackberry phone and make lists on the calendar, so I won't forget. It seems like just MAKING the list helps me remember... maybe from writing it down. I also write stuff on the kitchen calendar.

* Reminders. I LOVE reminders. My phone is full of them. Like the lists, just writing down something to remember helps me remember it.

* When I feel myself getting distracted during a class or something, I start tapping my foot. A friend suggested this and it oddly works, by redirecting my attention.

* I get help from friends, family and Gary. Now... I'm convinced Gary has ADD, although he's never been diagnosed... He is more forgetful than I am, and it's actually been a huge strain on us at times because he refuses to do anything about it (but that's a whole different story LOL)

I hope maybe this helps, because it really has for me. If you could, or really wanted to, you should go see a therapist. They can definitely help find coping strategies that fit you and your lifestyle. :)
 

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My husband has ADD. When he was younger they tried medicating him and it turned him into a zombie. His mother took him off it and fed him strong coffee. People with ADD, caffeine has an opposite affect.

I do notice he does better when he is away from sugar - he is addicted to candy. Now that it was brought up in this thread, the candy is red ( twizzlers, starburst, gummie bears ).

He is in the construction field, so he is excellent and very talented in what he does. If he keeps himself physically busy he does fine. As a teenager and young adult, he took and competed in karate.
 

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* I get help from friends, family and Gary. Now... I'm convinced Gary has ADD, although he's never been diagnosed... He is more forgetful than I am, and it's actually been a huge strain on us at times because he refuses to do anything about it (but that's a whole different story LOL)

I hope maybe this helps, because it really has for me. If you could, or really wanted to, you should go see a therapist. They can definitely help find coping strategies that fit you and your lifestyle. :)
That is so funny... I have been with my husband for 20 years, and when different things happen that annoy me, I just have to remember the ADD. Just a month ago he told me he thought I had it, because of my forgetfulness and not ever being able to finish something without starting something else. I leave a trail everywhere I go. I can see other peoples mess and clutter, but I cannot see my own.

My neighbor just started medicating her son last year. Since the medication, he is now scoring very high on state testing and turned into the best student. She is very happy about this. As outsiders, we see a child that is now distant, lost that sparkle in his eye, can no longer carry a conversation. We had another neighbor, who is a retired teacher, ask us if he was "special needs". I am not sure if I agree that medicating is the best solution.
 

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It's so strange that y'all mention the red dye thing! As a kid I was forbidden to have it!!!

I haven't ever truly struggled until now... I'm in grad school and graduate education is just not at all fit for ADD. 3 hour lectures and reading heaps of papers at a time is almost torture, I'll admit. I am prescribed adderall but only take it when I absolutely need to. It makes a difference but I hate feeling like a zombie.
 

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I'm surrounded by ADD here. My two sons and DH both have it. Only my youngest son still takes medication. He almost bombed out of a community college program without it. All have taken meds at some point in their lives. DH lives on coffee. He loves to start projects, hates to finish.
There is a lovely spontaneous side to the ADD personality.
My favorite story about my oldest son was missing the schoolbus on exam day, arriving an hr late and without a calculator for his pre-calculus exam and still passing(barely).
It is an interesting life but at times I do feel like the only responsible person here.
 

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My boyfriend loves and hates my add mind. He loves the spontaneity and randomness of it but hates to see me struggle through schoolwork. Due to intellect I was always able to get by without studying until now. I never really formed study habits and it's biting me in the butt now. My boyfriend can't quite understand how I cannot just sit and focus on one thing... it drives him nuts.
 

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I don't have the ADD but am HD, hyperactive. Two of my son's are also. The older one is an adrenaline junkie and always moving. His teachers pushed every year to put him on meds, I refused. He had a A in conduct, but his teacher's argued he 'walked the line' on conduct. I said he didn't cross it. The best teacher he ever had put him in the last row and gave him 'rules'. He could get up and sharpen a pencil every thirty minutes, he could get up and walk once around his desk every fifteen minutes. He could do his work sitting, kneeling or standing as long as he didn't leave the taped box around his chair. It helped him alot to know what he could and couldn't do. He ended up being an Air Traffic Controller. If I'd have put him on meds, he wouldn't have been able to be one.

You don't want to sit on a couch with either boys, their foot never stops moving, shaking the whole couch, or they're drumming and driving you crazy with the sound. I tend to run my hand up and down my leg if I'm sitting. My kids say I do it even when I'm driving and have to stop at a red light. I don't notice. I hate to go to the movies. In my family how good a movie is depends on how many times I say 'I'm really loving the movie, but how much longer is it?' *G*

Sitting in a lecture is hard, really hard. I found if I doodled on the sides of paper, it helped me to listen to what was saying instead of focusing on how long did I have to continue sitting there. I also tended to take copious notes, even on things I didn't need to because it made me listen and made the time go by faster. I taught the doodling trick to my sons and it helped both of them. I found it amusing that research now says the people who doodle actually learn more because they are actually listening better with less daydreaming.
 

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I'm ADD Inattentive. I wasn't diagnosed until my late 40's ... about the time that they started to realize girls DID have it, it just usually presented a bit differently....the quiet, clumsy, odd kid sitting in the back of the room daydreaming.

I've tried the meds, I didn't like them or the side-effects. Maybe I just got used to myself and my quirks. I do live alone so I don't need to worry about irritating a husband or housemate and the dogs don't seem to notice, lol.

There's much I find frustrating about it, and actually much that I love. I love the hyperfocus, I love being grabbed by an idea and researching until I have drained everything I can from it, I love being able to find patterns and see relationships in seemingly unrelated concepts. I DON'T like the fact that after doing all of that research it gets shoved aside while I move on to a new shiny object. I don't like that nothing ever gets done...I live in a world of half finished projects. I don't like the fact that I can't handle crowds because I can't filter out the distractions and get lost in them. I wish that in a conversation my mind and mouth wouldn't leap ahead and leave out key portions of the thought making me sound like an idiot. Etc., etc., etc.

Lists do help providing I don't lose the list which I inevitably do....but I agree, just the physical act of writing it down helps. Breathing exercises help...slow inhale to count of five, slow exhale to the count of five. It seems to slow the brain down for a bit and relieve some of the anxiety. Strangely, journaling has helped me. I've done it for years and it's only been recently that I've noticed it can break some thought loops just to get them out. For any writing anyone else needs to see...proofread, proofread, step away a few minutes and proofread again.

PM me any time. I've always thought there are many more of us out there than realize it. (And the red dye of childhood banning was Red Dye #2 found to cause cancer. I don't know about the current thought of connection with ADD, but anything's possible.)
 

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Their is a connection between the red dye and hyperactivity, it is well documented. Some people have had good results with omega-3 supplements instead of the regular stimulant meds.
Or you can just do what my DH did and marry an organized person. Seriously, I think it is a commonly used fix.
I know a lot of people have issues with meds, the media has done a good job of making everyone feel guilty. The have their place, definitely not a panacea and not for everyone.
 

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Thank you all, just hearing others experiences is so helpful. I have started trying to take my medicine to at LEAST get me through the semester... but now I can't sleep!!! I've gotten MAYBE 4 hours of sleep for three nights in a row... :/
 

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I once heard somebody say that the world is made of hunters and gatherers. The hunters being the ones that are now diagnosed with ADD & ADHD. Unfortunately, society tries to make us all gatherers. When I heard this, it just made so much sense.
 

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Drs and other people tried to tell me my son was ADHD I never believed them he was an active little boy. That little boy at age 5 sat through Seperate but Equall a 3hr movie and then asked if he could watch again the next day. I told his dr this and he said that it was a fluke the child should be on meds. I didnt believe him and refused my son is an artist sits for hrs and paints, works for days on a pysanky egg and puts 0 or more hrs into making traditional tobacco.
I think that too many children are labled and that lable follows them their whole life. Iam not ADD and I have trouble reading long papers if the subject really doesnt interest me why waste the brain power.

Good luck I hope you get through the semester and you get good grades.
 

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My brother and his wife adopted a 10 day old baby girl when they were 40. By the time she was 3 she was running the household. She siad jump and they asked how high and how long do you want us to stay in the air. They never said no to her and gave her whatever she wanted. Their entire world revolved around her. When she was 4 they adopted an 18 month old girl and that poor child has lived in misery due to her sister

At firs when Kara thru temper fits becuae someone didn't agree with her mySIL would say "oh, she is low on sugar." Then she got in school and in about 2ed grade diagnosed with ADHD. In 4th grade my SIL started honme schooling her because the teachers didn't understand her. She would get made becaue something didn't go her wan and throw books, flip over her chair, etc. Soneone had daredsay no toher.

At 10 SHE PICKED OUT THEIR NEW VAN becuae she wanted a bigger one so the younger girl would not sit on the same seat as her. At 12 they went to Colorad to visit my SIL's parents and Kara didn't want to hae to drive up so, so they fly her and then my brothers, sil and younger grifl drove up.

At 14 she was sneaking out at night and taking their care and going to meet a 25 year old guy and got pregnant. He claimed she told him she was 18 and considering she had been wearing full mak up, having her hair dyed, getting those French nails since she was 10, well, she could fool him.

Okay, she told them if they made her give up the baby she would run away. Everyone else in the family had seen the brusies on her little sister where she had hit her, kicked her, etc. We had seen her fits of rage and we thought it was a big mistake for them tokeep tht baby no matter what that girl said.

Well, in April (she had gotten pregnant in Nov.) she meets a guy on MySpace in Ohio, they "fall in love" and he wants to help her raise that kid (he was a senior in high school" And here comes an unreal part---my sil actually drove her to Ohio (from Texas) to go to the boys graduation and bring him back to to live with them.It wa what she wanted and by gum, she got what she wanted. Also, about this time she was also diagnoses as bi-polar.

That boy stayed with them from the end of May til right after the baby was born in Aug--and by them she was "in love with soneone else on MySpace." The boy went back to Ohio.

The girl is now 20 and I have only ever seen her touch that kid one time (he was 4 in Aug. My brother and the younger girl takes care of him. I feel so sorry for her--she has been tending that baby since she was 12. The older one never changed a single diaper bcuae it "made her sick". While the younger one (now 16) stays home taking care of that over active kid, the mother is out in the car my sil gave her getting her entire body tattooed. That is her goal, have her entire body "inked." She has never been able to keep a job more than a few weeks. She falls in love about 12 times a year.

My brother, the younger girl and the little boy came down for a few days in spring break. We were sitting on the patio and he said 'my mommy got mad and got a bat and made 3 holes in the wall. My neice just nodded and said that was true. then he said "and she got mad at Nana and threw nails and broke Nana's things." my neice said it was my sil's collectibles (Humells (?). She said her sister willnot take her meds because she likes the manic high she is one when NOT on meds.

My other 2 brothers, sister, all the rest of us think they are to scared of her to do anthing about her and we all feel she needs to be locked up if she wont take her meds. I mean, taking a bat and knocking holes in the walls, throwing nails to break her mothers collectibles, and also the younger one said she takes and hocks everything she can to pay for her tattoos.

The younger one wa also diagnosed with ADD a few years ago and she doesn't take meds, but does see a therapist every week--but as we all said, with her being the one to take care of that baby since she she was 12, seeing her sister get everything she ask for and they "can't afford" it for her, getting constantly hit on, kicked, by her sister and having her stuff taken (her i-pod, some jewelry, her guitar) well, it is no wonder she needs to see a therapist.

And the boy next door is suppose to be on drugs but hims mom doesn't want him "drugged out" so he tears the house up, beats her up, etc. IHe is the ony person I have ever really been scared of--and he just turned 15. He has ripped the counter tops off in kitchen, borken all the dholders on the fridge door, put holes in all the walls, she even had to replace her bedroom door with a soild outside type door becaue he tore the door apart when made at her.

So I woudl say, some people like my one neice can get along fine without the drugs (proably would a therapist if they had not allowed the older one to keep the baby and had run off her a couple fo yers ago,.) andthen some like tht girl and the boy nest door need them as surely as i need air to breath.
 

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IMO- Little kids should NEVER run a household. It should like your niece has way more than just ADHD going on. The same with the neighbor kid. I highly doubt meds would help either of them. Sorry your family has gone through this.
 

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Wow, 3 Goldens, that is a lot going on.

My husband's sister and two of her children have issues like that. She does have Bi-Polar and who knows what else. They are constantly changing her medicine. She blames all her problems and her children's problems on everybody but herself. I often say that one day I am going to write a book, but I don't think anybody would believe that it was true.;)
 

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I WOULF sfter seeing some the stuff my neice has done. You want to know a sad, sad part--My brother has a 38 yer old daughter from first marriage. When he was dating his present wife we thought she was going to make a perfect Mom for Yvonne. But then when Yvonne was about 12, she turned on her like a cornered rattlesnake. Yvonne would spend the summers with them.

In may '89 my Mom was diagnosed with a terminal brain turmor and had to be looked after. So that brother & wife had her at theri house. My SIL worked part time and Yvonen, 15, was there all the time. I was going up every weekend and my Mom was so upset. Said that all day "my little nurse" as she called Yvonne, took such great care of her. It was always "grandma do you need something to eat, Grandma can I find something on TV for you, Grandma do you want to play scrabble." Said Yvonne just hovered over here.

My sil would get home from work and if there was glass in the sink she jumped on Yvonne for "not cleaning up." And Yvonne had to be in bed at 9:00. Mom said no matter what Yvonne did, mySIL was never pleased. Need I say that was the last summer she ever spent there, and as a matter of fact. she only went back one time and that was for Christmas when she was 18 and I hear from the others that my SIL was a real B&&%H to her.

She was such a sweet little girl and gew up to be a sweet young woman. But she has nothing to do with her dad or stepmom because she resetns her dad letting his wife run all over her, and she knows how they have let this 20 year old adopted run that house. that girl HATES her, but the younger one is on contact with and talks to her.

And I agree, I think a lot of her doing is she never had displince, was never told no, always got esactly what she wanted and everything that happend was always someone else fault. By the way the guy she was sneaking out to met IN HER PARENTS CAR went to jail and my brother refers to him as "the guy that took advantage of Kara." The rest of us do not see it that way. She was sneaking out and taking their car, cleaimed to be 18, etc. On a sied note never once in my life was I asked my age by a boy friend. and with her in full makeup, heels, French nails, etc, and telling him she was 18, I totally think he believed it.

This may sound terrible, but I can't stand her and never want her in my house. She had posted on Facebook last Aug. that her son's Pre=k teacher had called her and told her she needed a man in her life becuae she coudlnt' control Shane. I knew that a lie--my borhter had posted on our famiy page about how much Shane liked school and his teacher was the same one both of the girls had had. I sent him an e-mail telling him that Kara should not be posting such things as it could get that teacher in trouble, or the teacher could sue for slander. He got on her about it and the e-mails she sent would mane the most foul mouthed person in the world blush.

I do behileve she has all thoe problems, but I also think if they had corrected her, made her behave, not given into her ever whum, she would not be so bad. The kid next door--the mon's own sisters says he is going to kill his mom in one of his rages and she and other family memembers have been trying to get her to get him in a hsopital or juvie or something. My hubby flat out told her she was going to hve to do something and she said "but he is my baby." and hubby told her "and when when he kills you I will have it put on your stone "HE KILLED ME BUT HE IS MY BABY." As said, he is the o nly person I have actually been scared of.
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