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Regret after surrendering

Recently I had to surrender my 9 month old Golden Retriever to a Golden Rescue. I had him since he was 8 weeks old spent 10-15hrs with him a day. I'm not sure what to do with myself thinking about it makes me depressed knowing I'll never get to see him again. I think about calling the rescue and asking if there's anyway I can have him back but I know there is no chance and it would be selfish. Looking for advice on how to move on I'm not sure if I can ever let this go.
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I'm sorry you were in a situation where you had to surrender your boy.

Did you sign a form relinquishing ownership of him and the release of him to the Rescue? Most of the GR Rescue take ownership at time of Intake.

Not knowing what the circumstances or reason why you surrendered him and it will also depend on the Rescue Group, you could call the Intake person and talk to them.

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Yes i signed the form relinquishing ownership and gave it to the man that was transporting him.
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How long ago was this?

I added some info to my post above.
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I am so sorry you had to give up your boy. It is tough to lose that companionship no matter the circumstances. Perhaps just reviewing the reasons you felt it was better to let him go will help you not regret it so badly. Maybe you could request a report about his new home and feel better knowing he is in a great situation. Most rescues are able to find really good situations, especially for a young dog. They probably had lots of applications from loving homes. It's also okay to let yourself grieve his loss.


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I surrendered him yesterday morning, the main reason i surrendered him was because him and my parents dog didn't get along great. They started showing teeth, barking, growling and i had to break them up a lot. I tried to get my parents to go to training with me but they didn't want to and i can't afford to move out. I know i don't have a chance at getting him back i just miss him and I'm sure the rescue will end up finding him a better home.
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I believe you did the right thing. Things could get worse since your parents did not want to collaborate. I am sure it was a difficult decision but the earlier the better. The dog appearantly felt that he was unwanted, alienated by your parents. For a GR ( since puppyhood at the same family) to show aggression raises many questionmarks. He did not feel good this boy and as a responsible owner you made the right choice for his happiness.
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Thank you for the advice I just surrendered him yesterday. I'll try and give the rescue a call and see if they could update me when he finds a home or how his progress goes while he's in his foster home.
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Oh no! I'm so sorry! We have a 10 month old, he is so sweet. But other dogs try to attack him all the time even when we walk by leashed on the sidewalk...mostly because he's not neutered. Did these behaviors always exist, or did they escalate as your boy reached maturity? Does he initiate, or just defend himself?
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It started when he was 6 months then they got worse over time. I never saw him initiate he just defended himself or backed away.
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