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Sleeping with us is bedroom is not going well

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We've been trying to have our little fur baby sleep in the bed or bedroom with us at nights. Its not going so well. She just doesn't understand that its time to relax. She will usually fall asleep in bed and sleep for a few hours...then she wakes up and is wired for hours. Moving and walking around in bed. Jumping on and off the bed. Trying to dig through the carpet and just being very restless. I even have and doggy bed next to the bed with pillows...it looks so comfy I should just sleep there lol. Is there any advise you can give me? Should I just keep her in her crate where she's perfectly content being at nights? She's 11 months old now and I just thought maybe its time for her to have a little more freedom.
 
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I would leave her in her crate. I had Tess in her crate until we went away with an RV during summer for a couple of weeks. We didn't have her crated there, and when we came back, she never went up to her crate anymore, so it was time to let her sleep where she wanted. Liza still goes in her crate on her own accord in the evening, and will reluctantly leave it to go out a last time. So she still sleeps in her crate, and seems perfectly happy.
 
#3 ·
Was the crate in your room? Maybe bring the crate in and try to bridge the two...? Get her used to sleeping in your room while confined to the crate and then start leaving the door open, etc.... ?

My guys have their rotations around my bedroom through the night.... they start off on the bed and then they both have spots on the floor. Jacks goes under the bed and Bertie sleeps in the corner between the bed and dresser. Then sometime during the night Bertie gets back in the bed. Then gets off back to his spot between the bed and dresser. And then by morning he's back in my bed. LOL. All of this is little more than sleepwalking. When he was a puppy, he slept pretty much on my bed all night. As he got bigger, I gather it's not always comfy crammed on my bed for 5-6 hours. :) His brother has a bed under the bed.... and really, I think since bringing Bertie home.... he sleeps a lot deeper at night and doesn't really move around. Sometimes between 4:30 and 5:00 he does pop out to come stare at me and fuss because he's waiting for me to get up and feed him and his brother. But even that doesn't really happen unless I go to bed a couple hours earlier than normal.

Anyway. I think it all depends on whether your dog is pacing around your room and panting and fussing at you. To me that indicates that she's not comfortable in your room and wants her normal sleeping spot. And I definitely would not be thrilled dealing with that every night.

If she's just moving around the room and sleeping pretty much between moves, then it probably just needs a little time for her to find a good sleeping spot she favors over the others. It all gets better.
 
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If she's happy in the crate then I wouldn't change it. Chester had a crate in the kitchen and when he was ready to progress we just left the door open and gated the kitchen door. Now we just hate the stairs and he has the run of the downstairs and has never done anything naughty. He gets too hot in a 'bed' type situation and gets restless, that may be the same issue you are having so a crate maybe more suited to her?
 
#5 ·
I'd do the crate. Buddy didn't start sleeping with us until he was almost a year old.

Also I would suggest you have your pup on a schedule; it was hard, but I always put Buddy to bed at the same time at night, and it's become his schedule now. He gets sleepy at 10:00 every night now! Success!
 
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I agree with Elly.

My first golden would rather stay downstairs and sleep on the tile as he would get really warm. And in the summer he would had preferred to sleep outside. Which was fine with me as he would had kept me up all night. Wyatt on the other hand is pretty quiet and settled on our bedroom floor every night.
 
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I tried leaving Finn out of his crate too at night, but he was so excited by it all he would wake me up a lot. He was recently neutered and I couldn't put him in his crate due to his cone so I left him out and he did fine. Now that the cone is off I decided to continue to see how he would do being left loose at night and he has done great. He doesn't wake me up in the middle of the night so I guess the excitement has worn off! :) He still likes going in and out of his crate though so I leave the door open. When I woke up this morning he was in his crate sleeping.

I would put your little lady back in the crate, especially since she doesn't mind it. Give it a little more time and try it again. She'll calm down eventually at night!
 
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#8 ·
It would be very exciting for a pup at first to have this new freedom.
It is just like you sleeping in a new place - you adjust and rest peacefully after a while.

I would persist as these special moments are priceless.
If only you could have seen my adorable boy last night. What a blessing.
 
#9 ·
This 100% :)

We started Bear sleeping with us only on weekend nights so if he was restless we could just sleep in the next morning. The more he slept with us, the longer he'd be willing to sleep. Lol!!! Now he's back to his crate (cause he cannot physically be on the bed) but I cannot wait for when we get to let him back up there. Love our morning snuggles.


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#10 ·
Thanks for all the help. I don't have the crate in my room as theres really not enough room for it. I would bring it in if I could to try that transition to sleeping outside of it. There is no way for me to let her have her crate where it is with the door open and still have access to our bedroom without giving her FULL access to the house. (just the way my house is set up). This is an option, it just worries me a bit giving her that much freedom right away. I think maybe she does just need time to get used to it. I also would have her try to sleep with us for a couple nights, get frustrated with getting woken up every 10 minutes and then the next week she'd be back in her crate. Then back with us....and so on. I'm thinking maybe I haven't helped the situation at all. There have been nights where she's been amazing...maybe 1 move or so throughout the night. I agree with u both Doug and Brave theres nothing like snuggling with your pup. I think I just need to stick this out.
 
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Cassie will be two in June. I've just recently started to let her choose where she wants to sleep on the weekends.

She'll head to her crate around 11:00, and give me the look as if to say, "Okay daddy, time for bed. And more importantly, time for my bedtime cookie."

She usually spends the majority of the night in her crate. I think it's the coolness of the plastic tray/bottom. But she'll come out and try out the rug for a bit too. And when the sun starts to come up, she snuggles up to me in bed.

Interestingly enough, when she is given the freedom, she lets me sleep in. But when she spends the night in her crate, she wakes me up ~6:30am without fail.
 
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