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Purebred guilt?

Hey everyone, this is something that I have been dealing with since we made the decision to get our golden.

Our families are HUGE on rescues. When we decided to get Heidi, the family was quite "shocked" and perhaps dissapointed that we were going with a PB. Many family members are "mixed breeds make the BEST dogs and the only way to go"

Yes, I was all about rescuing, giving a dog in need a home. We did research and contact numerous rescues, but either they could not guarantee what they were mixed with (one was a golden cross .... But they thought it could be with a border collie or a st Bernard!) well there is abit of a size difference between a border and a st Bernard. Finding a puppy was few and far between and slim pickings.

The family seemed to comprehend our choice that with our smallest (1 and 2 years) of our 4 children that we thought it was important and our responsibility to know temperament history (meet and view the parents), and start with a puppy. We did consider adopting an older dog, but many at the SPCA say "may not be good with children please bring family members in for meeting" , or they all said not recommended for kids under 10, or rescues did not foster them with kids so were not sure "but sure they would be". I am not really in agreement to use my kids as guinea pigs? I know any dog of any breed, age, history and kids can be a risk, but we felt giving ourselves and the puppy a best start at success as possible.

We love our Heidi, she is a wonderful girl, we know we made the best and right decision for OUR FAMILY ; this I am not questioning at all. I was just wondering if anyone has faced "criticism" for not rescuing? And I guess I do carry some guilt, but not regret I will assure you.

My plan in the future (once my two smallest are a bit older) is to adopt a mature golden. I am hooked on the breed and not certain I would ever be without one .... Or two even? Lol

I hold the highest respect for everyone who does rescue whether a mixed, or a purebred. I look up to you, especially those that adopt the older dogs. You are special people. Many older dogs do not find homes because people feel "cheated" on the years that have passed on the dogs. Kudos to you, I believe an older dog is more experienced in love and can make up for all those past years in the years they have left. You are truly remarkable people.



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I did also.

I was going to rescue another golden, when my senior rescue GR passed. My daughter asked about getting a puppy, and I thought about what I was taking away from her having never owning a puppy. So we found a breeder and went the puppy route.

We love our boy and have no regrets, but now my DD comments on how the whole puppy thing is over rated, and suspect she will grow up a rescuer as result
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Please don't feel guilty about getting a purebred Golden from a breeder. There is nothing wrong with it.
I have a purebred Golden from a breeder, I also have two rescues, a lab mix and a dachshund. Before that I only had purebred Goldens from breeders. I don't feel a lick guilty about that. Why would I? And I really don't care what others think I think all that counts is that we love our dogs.

And I will continue to get purebred Golden pups from breeders

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Our family doesnt care either way. DH's family used to breed Shih tzu's, and had other dogs and cats as well. They just love animals no matter where they came from. We have done rescue animals before, we think its great and will do it again. I have gotten animals in all different ways. My cat DH got for me just from a news paper add, then we had a dog and a cat that both came from the human society. I actually wont even go there with DH anymore because he makes it impossible to walk out without something. Lol. Now we have Milla. We picked a golden because they are great family dogs and easy to train. I looked at rescues and had the same issues you had. We have a 5 year old and didn't want to take a chance with them if they may not be good with kids. I started looking at breeders, but most of them wouldn't sell to someone with kids under 10 years, plus had a ton of other requirments we werent fans of. We ended up just finding someone online who had a litter she was selling. We couldn't be happier. She is such a great pup.
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Don't feel guilty. I totally admire people who rescue, but I have specific goals for my dog ownership, and they're best met with a well-bred Golden. I won't detail a whole host of reasons, because I don't want to make it sound like it's somehow better than rescuing, but buying a purebred puppy and rescuing a dog are two completely different projects. It's not like one is the "right" way to get a dog and the other is "wrong."
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I think it is a personal choice, rescue or puppy. It's not those of us who get a puppy and are responsible owners who are creating the problem of so many dogs in shelters, it is the people who think dogs are disposable items.
And i'm not saying this to discount the wonderful people who bring a rescue dog into their home, I'm just saying that there is more than one option.

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It's not those of us who get a puppy and are responsible owners who are creating the problem of so many dogs in shelters, it is the people who think dogs are disposable items.
I completly agree.
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Purebred guilt?

You know what's really special? There's a bumper-sticker I've been seeing around town a lot with the caption "Breeders Kill Shelter Dogs". !! Wow. I don't feel one shred of guilt for purchasing my guys from a breeder, and I think it's irresponsible owners who are ' killing' shelter dogs. I want a golden, I want to start with a puppy, and I shouldn't have to feel guilty about that because irresponsible people are letting their dogs reproduce inappropriately. I think rescuing is great, and I have done it in the past, but if I choose not and folks give me trouble about it....well, they're going to have a fight on their hands.


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Don't feel guilty - you made the right choice for you.

We got Shadow from a breeder because I wanted the puppy experience - I wanted to pick up the little furball and raise him from the beginning - and I wanted a golden. I wanted that experience at least once. I think after Shadow, I'll rescue a golden - but for the first one, I wanted a puppy.

I remember I was out walking Shadow a few months ago and we ran into a mother with her child (they were also walking a golden). The little girl was so excited about puppy Shadow and playing with him. She asked her mother why they didn't have a puppy and the mother (in front of me) turns to her and goes "because we RESCUE our dogs - we don't buy them." I picked Shadow up and walked away.

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We very much wanted to rescue too - but with having a 5 and 9 year old I really wanted to know the temperment of the dog from the very beginning so we went with a purebred from a breeder. Don't feel bad - we all have to do what's best for our family. I hope that a rescue dog will be possible sometime down the line.

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