Originally Posted by Goldens&Friesians View Post
I've literally seen shelters advertise goldens as being great with small children and then when you inquire about them, oh sorry we don't adopt to families with children under 6. ??? I totally get it that they want the dog to go to a good home where it will be taken care of, but they are regulating good homes right out the door! Anymore its getting so that adopting a child is easier than adopting a dog.
I laughed when I read this part - so true.
That said, I get why both breeders and rescues set those parameters. You hear or read about some families where they already have their hands full with the little kids and fast forward a few weeks or a couple months, the moms are DONE with having a dog. More so when there's stuff going on with the kids.
With people adopting adult dogs into families with a lot of kids - would wager that there is that much bigger concern over an adult dog snapping at kids crawling all over him. Puppies don't usually snap - or if they do, their jaws are not strong enough to do too much damage.
*Can I just say that I have been very grateful that different rescues turned us down? For one reason or the next it directed my path in a different way and it was for the best.
Back in the late 2000's, I had lost one old dog and was down to just one old dog. We had been turned down by multiple rescues because that other old dog (12 year old male golden) was intact. They basically told me I would have to neuter him in order to submit another application that would actually be considered. <= This to adopt a mixed breed that was neutered.
We ended up adopting a purebred rough collie from a breed rescue. This was Arth who raised the next two golden pups I brought home.
After I lost my 12 year old golden - I went back out thinking I could just adopted a golden. I knew I wanted a golden to help raise Jacks and I wanted to always have 2 goldens. We were turned down because of lack of fencing, we didn't even get around to discussing Jacks being intact.
If I had adopted a dog back then, I would never have bought Bertie when the time came. I would have missed all of the sweetness that is Bertie. As well, I would not have experienced many of the joys of having him and Jacks together for the past five+ years. Bertie was the very best companion for Jacks. More so, perhaps, than an adult dog with issues might have been. As well, losing Jacks in the past couple months - I would have been in a terrible place with another adult and back at the very beginning looking for a puppy and scrambling. That thankfully is not the case.
As well, Bertie besides being a big blessing for Jacks' sake.... he also invited me to very many people who I count on as dear friends today.
Things have a way of happening for a reason.