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post #21 of 24 (permalink) Old 02-16-2014, 06:57 AM
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I'm so sorry your girl is grieving. It's one reason I'm so concerned about my Billy's advancing age, Max will grieve when Billy is gone.

I would also suggest the doggy day care route. Billy and Max go to doggy day care on the days that I go to work (Monday and Tuesday and then Thursday and Friday) and on the occasional additional days that I telework, either because of weather or simply because I have the option to work from home. They love going there, and they have their doggy friends. It's so adorable, seeing them greet each other when I drop them off in the mornings.

I'm sure that your golden will appreciate making new friends and having activities. I would research carefully, visit the facility, ask about vet support in case of emergencies, and ask about how they manage the dogs. Ideally there would be small groups of dogs of similar size but also similar activity level. And ALWAYS supervised play.

I hope this would be a good solution to help with the grieving process. Then you won't feel the pressure to bring a dog home before you're emotionally ready, but yet your golden's healing process continues.
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Hi and thank you for your note Lilliam. So many things and ideas going through my head. One day at a time and eventually we'll figure it out.
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I am so sorry for your loss of Simon. We were devastated when we lost our first boy at 11 1/2 and the girl, who was 5, was definitely experiencing her own version of grief. We stayed close to her, including her in some activities that she might have missed before and generally kept her near - but I'm sure she picked up on our grief as well. About 3 months later through a strange chain of events, I met some people with the local Golden Retriever Rescue organization. They told us how desperate they were for foster homes for some of their potential adoptees and wouldn't we consider giving it a shot. We certainly weren't ready for having a new full time member of the family (I'm not saying you shouldn't do it - it just wasn't yet the right time for us) but I thought hey, if I can help out another dog for a while - imagining that's what our boy would have liked - I said let's give it a shot. So we signed up a little apprehensively and within a week had a wonderful girl. She stayed with us only for about a week before she had her new forever home. Then we had a great boy for about 2 weeks. Then another for 3 weeks and one more after that! We loved each and every one of them - all different ages and personalities. In our mind, it was almost like we were the relatives that they came to visit on vacation for a while until they went home - good food, new neighborhood and playmates. And they all went to great homes which made it a very happy experience - especially when we met some of the kids who were over the moon about their adoptee. Kind of weird, I know, but for us it worked - Bellatrix, Mozart, Harley and Sam (funny how I remember each of them and it was over 5 years ago!) The surprising thing was that our girl actually seemed to enjoy them - after the first day of 'who are you and why are you here??' had passed. At the end of those 4 fosters, we were about ready to expand the family - and we did. This was actually a very healing thing for us and I'm glad I did it - we never knew who we were going to get, which made it a bit of an adventure, but each one was wonderful.
Sending good thoughts to you and your girl.
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Hi Wilbur's Dad..i really appreciate your note (and everyone else who has replied).
It was nice to read you experience. My biggest fear is that I agree to foster a dog and then I don't want to turn it over to it's new forever home. But it is definately something we're going to think about.
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