How did you all know you were ready for the responsibility of a dog, and were ready to adopt? How were you able to determine if you are financially stable for one? I found an adult golden in a nearby city shelter, and I am questioning everything.
Quick facts about me:
- I am a 22 yr old woman, who lives alone in a dog friendly apartment
- I work full time during the week (usually 8am-4:30pm sometimes 5pm. I do work 8am to 8pm on the last day of the month due to the nature of my work
- I have grown up with poodles but never really owned my own dog. I am familiar with the process, but was never taking the full brunt of it
- I would like to take the dog for a walk before and after work, but realistically that might take a bit for me to get used to doing, especially the mornings. I tend to be a lazy person so i would like some encouragement from my pet. I live 8 mins away from work.
- my apartment is on the 5th floor but i do take an elevator. its a 1br thats roughly around 700 sq ft. I live nearby a couple of parks.
- I live in north texas and make 54k a year (4,500/mo). After taxes, benefits and 401k, i take home around 3000.Rent is 1200 and with bills its around 1500. I put away $500 for savings.Then its food costs 300, and gas. So i am left with around 700 per month, but i been playing fast and loose with that leftover so its more like 350ish (oops, yes i know i need to tighten that up!)
- I might get some hate for this, put he would be my ESA. I have been seeing a doctor for a bit and she has agreed to prescribe me a letter if I find the right fit. If it all goes well, no apartment dog rent nor deposit. Yes, I know an ESA is not a service animal and I wont pretend thats the case.
I can link the guy i found, but there is not much to go from. The post only states he is a golden, adult male.... and his name is houston. Thats it.
I am thinking about driving over and meeting the guy, and ask the shelter for any information but odds are they wont have any. I dont want to jump the gun and do something harsh either.
The main driving force to get a companion is that honestly? I am incredibly lonely. I tend to get in my head and struggle to make friends, so the only person I talk to is my mother and its because i cant stand the silence in my apartment at times. Dont get me wrong, I like to talk to my mom, but man its kinda sad to realize thats the only person I have to talk to. I tend to get fixated on myself in a negative way to the point that its been affecting my daily life, so I have been going to a doctor for a while. I know getting a dog wont cure the symptoms, but my therapist says it should help.
The thing is, i dont want to adopt a dog just to get attached and then realize I have to give them up because I am not ready or im not financially stable. But at the same time, the idea of being needed and loved and not be so lonely is so attractive, that I just get fixated on that and ignore the rest.
I dont know, if anyone can bring in some perspective that would be great. Its ok to get some tough love, so dont hold back.
Sorry if it got dark and gloomy at the end, i just figured its worth mentioning as well.