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I miss you...I love you...A thread to talk to your Angels at the Bridge

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#1 · (Edited)
I'm having a hard time finding an outlet to talk to about my girl. People are understanding around me but they don't want to keep hearing about Magic all time. (And I'm not talking about GRF.) But what I really want and need is to just talk to her, and put into words whenever I need to, how I felt, how I feel, how I miss her. I want to share what is going on in our life now as I would if she were standing by my side. I know there are countless others out there who are grieving the loss of their babies and are afraid that they will be forgotten in the hustle and bustle of life.

So with this thread please feel free to talk directly to your babies, tell them what you need to tell them as many times and as often as you need to. And know that so many of us feel this with you. I hope this provides many of us with some healing and a place to be heard whenever we need it.
 
#247 ·
Three months today at the bridge for Monty

Hey Mister, well it's three months today that you went to the bridge. Dad an I still miss you lots. Still can't believe you are gone. It's just not the same. I finally started walking again, follow all the paths we use to take. Just wish we could walk them together. We will be heading home soon. That ride will not be the same. It's going to be hard. Hope you are ok at the bridge and I hope you found Dakota. Love you lots Monty. Mom?
 
#248 ·
Today is 3 weeks since you went to the Bridge to be with your sister. What a tough year losing you both 13 months apart. Not a day goes by that we don't think of you and Cheyenne. Nothing is the same without you both. I know we have to move on and make new memories with Tayla, but we would give anything to hold you both again. I like thinking you are both together again. We miss you both so much. Someday soon we will honor your memory like we did Cheyenne and bring another in need into our lives. We just aren't ready yet. We are going camping next week, the first without you. It will be so hard. You loved camping so much. Bye baby. Play nice with Cheyenne. She waited for you.
 
#249 ·
Hi Tobylein, it has been three weeks today, since you left us. It feels like it was yesterday. I miss you sooo much, I love you so much! I am not ready to move on and I don't know if I ever will.
I imagine you everywhere, I see you in your favorite spot to snooze, on our walks together, greeting me in the morning with your favorite stuffy in you mouth saying: mom, wake up. I miss your sloppy kisses, you head pressed into my legs and butt wiggles wanting a back scratch. This is so hard!
I don't think you wanted to leave, if you could have, you would have stayed. I am sorry I had to make that decision to let you go. My brain says you would have died slowly and suffered, my heart says: keep you close, don't let you go.
I remember over the past year, I always whispered in your ear at night: I love you and need you, please don't get sick and don't die on me. You are my life's blood and mama needs you many more years to come.
I know you could not help getting sick, I don't blame you. I just wished I could have made you healthy again, catch this terrible disease before it was too late.
This summer won't be the same without you. I wanted to get you a life vest and take you in the pool with me every day to help you keep your muscle mass and help with your arthritis. I am so sorry that you had to have the arthritis issues for so long. I wished I could have done more for you. I would have gladly taken your arthritis for you, just so you could run and play again like you used to.
I know your brothers miss you, Daddy misses you but he does not really let on about it. I am sure you can see that.
Life is not fair, has never been fair so far, why would it change now.
Just know, that Mama will always love you and miss you no matter what. You are my special boy, my 'Puppelina Puppenschreck', my 'stinkbobbes', you loved it when I called you that. Oh, I wish I could kiss you, hug you, snuggle with you right now. I love you so much!!!
I would love to really know that you are everywhere around me, that you are still watching. If you are, Mama is always with you, don't be scared. I love you forever!!!!
 
#250 ·
Monty, today is four months you are gone. It is still very hard to accept. We miss you mister. Your little quirks, your "smile", " talking" to dad in the morning, letting us know when you wanted something. We are still having a rough time. We are heading home on Saturday. It will be a very hard trip. When we get home the house will feel empty. Wishing you were here. We will always love you Monty. Miss you little boy, mom and dad��������
 
#252 ·
Fozzie, I can't believe that you've been gone 10 months today. Not a day goes by that I don't miss you and think of you. I really miss our daily walks together. I'm not sure what you and your older brother Gallagher were up to last night, but I swear I smelled wet dog in the basement! We are getting ready to open the cottage this weekend, but it's just not the same without you up there!

I hope you don't mind that we are probably bringing home a new golden boy later this year. I know that you and Gallie will have a hand in helping us pick the right one.. But, you were my heartdog, and I will always miss you and your sassy bark and the endless games of landing ball.


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#253 ·
Fozzies mom
All I can tell you is there is nothing like a Golden puppy to help heal a broken heart. You know how it was when I lost Katie, took me a year to find the right dog. Abby will never replace Katie but she does make me smile and warms my heart. Fozzie will be right there watching over you as you pick your new puppy. Prayers and good luck your way.

Mike
 
#256 ·
Liberty Louise, I'm sitting here tonight with your brubby, Artemis. Today is three weeks and one day since you went to The Bridge. Today for the first time since you left Artemis dug through the toy box for just the right toy, today he even raced through the livingroom bounding along wanting to play. It didn't last long, but it gives me hope that we will be alright. We saw the rainbow again today, that makes three times since you left, we now call it Libby's Rainbow. Twice your rainbow appeared on garbage night, it seemed so strange going down the driveway with only one helper, but I could almost see you sitting at the end of the rainbow watching for those darn bunnies that you loved to chase. I miss you so much every day, I miss those lovely eyes and that knowing way that you tilted your head at me. I talk to you constantly, I cry for you every day. Grandma brought me an early Christmas present from you, its a beautiful little stone with the following poem.

I'll always love you, you know that!
But I'm really happy where I'm at.
Trails and parks & dogs galore.....
I've crossed through Heaven's Doggie Door.

That made me cry too, but I know you aren't in any pain now. As much as I miss you I could never wish you to stay and not be able to do the things that you loved. That would be selfish of me....I love you too much for that, so wait for me at The Bridge my Angel Princess, I'll join you in time. Love ya, Mommy
 
#257 ·
Hey Libber, Artie and I had a pretty good day yesterday. We went with your Uncle Kevin and Aunt Rhonda to Bill's camp. Amber was there too. Bill had Booker and Bandit there....Artie actually PLAYED with them! He would never have done that before...he was always so busy protecting you, that he'd never play. Your brother made me laugh so hard. I was so happy to see that he has some friends that he can have play dates with. Boy was he tired last night. It was so nice to see his tail in the air and the smile on his face. Today we were around home puttering so it was a harder again, but we got through, still wish you were here every day and miss you constantly. Hope you are up there watching and listening when I talk to you Lib, it makes me feel better to close my eyes and imagine you sitting beside me. Love you sweet girl.

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#258 ·
Monty, we got home Sunday may 19. I started crying when we got off the thruway and cried the rest of the way home. The house feels empty without you. I put your Dollie in the toy box with the rest of your toys. I have decided that they will stay there. I will keep them and your beds. I need to have them. We miss you so much mister. Miss everything you did. Just not the same. Love you lots little boy. Monty you will be in our thought and hearts forever.
 
#260 ·
Well Lib, here it is four weeks from the day you left. Today was a hard one. As usual, I cried most of the way to work and back, thank goodness my drive isn't any longer than a few minutes, my eyes always feel like they are full of sand. I looked for a sign from you today....guess you were busy playing with your new friends. I did have a few moments of happiness when your brother decided to play with me. I got down on my hands and knees, like we always used to, and we played tug of war for several minutes. Artie's tail was wagging and he tried to use that clubfoot move on me that he always used on you, about knocked me over. Then we went outside because it finally started getting cooler. Watered the garden, seems so strange not to replant something that you wanted moved elsewhere. Your regular paths are disappearing, OK guess that was the hardest moment...knowing that you'd never again travel those routes, or sit in your favorite spot.....the formerly grassless spot under your maple tree in the corner of your fence is almost filled with grass now. What I wouldn't give for those spots to turn back into mud again, and see your lovely face smiling at me. I miss you so much baby girl. It still feels like my heart is in a million pieces, I love you sweet Princess Liberty. Hope you always remember you are my special girl.

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#261 ·
Hi Artnlibsmom
I know how hard that is. Looking out at a spot Lib use to walk or sit. The pain of losing a heart dog is very deep. I wish I had some magic words for you to help heal your pain. When I lost Katie it took almost a year before I got Abby. The pain was still deep. Having a new face helps but it just dulls the pain. The small things that would remind me of Katie would make me cry. Keep putting one foot forward and try to remember the good times with Lib.

Prayers and Hugs
Mike.
Abby & Lilly
 
#262 ·
Well Monty, it has been 5 months today that you went to the bridge. I hope you are having a great time with Dakota and all your new friends. Mom and Dad still miss you terribly. We remember all the quirky things that you would do and get very sad all over again. I have decided to keep your dollies and beds. I just can't let them go. I am starting to think about getting a pup. Some days it's yes I will, other days its no,I can't. I don't want to hurt your feelings. Stupid, isn't it? We miss you mister. We are home in NY, the rabbits in the yard seem to be waiting for you to chase them. We remember how you use to run after them, slowing when you got close, ( to give them a chance to get away:) ) it's raining again today, so you would be spending the day being lazy. Well mister, I'll let you get back to your friends. Love you little boys. Mom and Dad
 
#263 ·
Fozzie, it's been 11 months today. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you and all the fun we had. We haven't been up north much, but will be up there soon-it's really hard to be up there without you giving me those "can I please go in the lake" looks. Your new little brother is supposed to be born in a few weeks-please help us to choose the right one when the time comes.. Miss you bunches and bunches!

Love,

Mom


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#265 ·
Ylans mom

I know exactly how you feel. Right now nothing anyone says to you is going to make you feel better. But know this, it does get better. It won't be the same but you will start to remember the good times you had together. There will always be "bad" days, but you will get better. You will never forget ylan, he/she will always be in your heart. Ylan is probably enjoying his/her new friends and having a wonderful time with them. Take care and hope you feel better soon.
 
#266 ·
Thank you so much for your support. This is so hard but I have to trust everyone's words and good wishes that it will get better because you have been where I am. Thank you for reassuring that my angel is well. Thank you for your good wishes. Blessings to you...
 
#267 ·
I lost my Rudy 2 weeks ago and I have no one else to cry to because I think most people think I have to just "move on" - He was my whole world. He was a gorgeous 8 year old golden retriever with the sweetest most loving personality...I'm 50 years old and Rudy was my first dog ever...prior to him I was one of those people who didn't get the whole dog thing....THEN...I had him and my life changed...a reason to get up every morning and rush home from work just to give him a big hug. I am so sad......I hope he is okay wherever he is..
 
#268 ·
He's in Heaven. Adults and children alike who've had near death experiences and come back tell of family pets in the tunnel on their way there.

I know your heartache. Time does help, but ultimately adopting another golden to honor his memory will help most of all. That's been my experience. Yes, after my first passed I wrestled with 'would I be dishonoring Buddy's memory by getting another golden?" The answer, just as soon as I adopted a rescue a few months later, was a resounding "It's exactly what he would have wanted."

People who love their dogs like you do need an outlet for that. And there are so many goldens someone threw away who need that love. Just some food for though for in the future.

Please accept my sincere condolences.
 
#269 ·
Rudy

Tneary

We all know your heartache! Keep coming to us and talking about Rudy.
I believe Rudy is at the Rainbow Bridge with all of our pets that have died
and we will see them again after we die. I'm sure that my Smooch and Snobear are playing lots of ball with Rudy!
 
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Liberty, Mommy missed you camping the last four days....its just not much fun without you. Your birthday was yesterday, mommy cried, but you know that's nothing new. Arties birthday is tomorrow, we would have celebrated both of your birthdays today....tomorrow will be the first time Artie celebrates his birthday alone. I just hate this so much. I want you here. I don't think Artie will open his gifts alone without you. I have your presents too, I already had them for you....and then you were gone and life will never be the same. I love you baby girl...I love you happy birthday angel.

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#272 ·
Seven weeks today baby girl. Found one of your socks in the flower bed today. I cried like a baby. You so loved stealing socks. I can see you dancing up the hall doing that squeal that made me laugh. I miss you so baby girl. I hope you are having fun with all your new bridge friends. My heart will hurt until I see you again. Mommy loves you poppet.

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#273 ·
Many good thoughts and prayers your way. I know how hard it is when we lose a Golden. The quietness of the house, there is no heavy sigh at the foot of your bed when they are finally going to settle down and sleep. Finding a toy they used to love to play with. Katies collar is drapped over a picture I have of here playing in Lake Michigan with of course a tennis ball in her mouth. I see that every day and it makes me smile most of the time. Hopefully one day soon you will bring home a puppy and start to heal your heart.

Mike, Abby and of course the old lady Ms Lilly!
 
#274 ·
:(

This forum makes me cry. I originally came here for my new pup Olliver but am frequently thinking and talking about my darling Homer who passed on 1/8/13.
He was my heart dog. My best friend. I loved him every day of his 11 short years.
Our new boy Olliver is a love and dear to me. I find myself welling up a great deal lately as the little guy is growing in to a big guy and starting to exhibit Homer/Golden mannerisms: the picking up/bringing of multy objects and the accompanied low moan when he sees us coming in. The attempt last night to get two tennis balls in mouth (lol, not yet Ollie 14 wk old mouth still too small).
So, while the time passes from when Homer went to the bridge, and his departure from my life is farther and farther away, dear sweet Olliver brings him alive for me each day it seems.
Bless all of you who have loved and lost a dear Golden friend.
 

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#275 ·
Ylan, I am so sorry... I am trying to "feel better", to focus on all the good memories (SO many) and not on the emptiness. I think that you don't want me to be sad but I am, and my heart aches. Time stopped when you left 51 days ago and I still don't know what to do with myself. You were my comfort and company for so many years, I wish I could hold you right now. I am wishing for a sign... I miss you so much. I Love you from heart and soul.
 
#277 ·
A lot of us know that feeling, you will get a sign from Ylan you can count on that. Time doesn't stop the pain of losing a heart dog it just dulls it. I waited a year to get Abby, she has helped me get through losing Katie. She will never replace Katie but she sure has helped heal my heart. My prayers and good thoughts your way. We are all here to help support each other when one has such pain. Feel fee to post about your loss anytime. Just go back and read some threads about my Katie and Vs loss of her Charlie. We both had a very hard time but with a new puppy we both are smiling and starting to feel like the pain isn't as bad.

Mike, Abby, Lilly
 
#276 ·
I am so sorry Ylan's Mom.. I understand the emptiness and pain you're feeling right now. The days go by and just feel empty and sad, no matter what you try to do or think.. I know Ylan would not want you to be sad and hurting so much. I found this poem and I love it so much. It's long, but it helped me. Maybe you will find comfort in it too- Cattery Kirazamber - The Loving Ones

Thinking of you.
 
#286 ·
I am so sorry Ylan's Mom.. I understand the emptiness and pain you're feeling right now. The days go by and just feel empty and sad, no matter what you try to do or think.. I know Ylan would not want you to be sad and hurting so much. I found this poem and I love it so much. It's long, but it helped me. Maybe you will find comfort in it too- Cattery Kirazamber - The Loving Ones

Thinking of you.
Thank you Charlie Cooper. The poem is beautiful. I have read it a couple of times and although I cry I also find comfort. Having Ylan in my heart is a gift of Light. I would not change anything for those 13.5 years. I wish you serenity and comfort too. Thank you.
 
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