I'm having a hard time finding an outlet to talk to about my girl. People are understanding around me but they don't want to keep hearing about Magic all time. (And I'm not talking about GRF.) But what I really want and need is to just talk to her, and put into words whenever I need to, how I felt, how I feel, how I miss her. I want to share what is going on in our life now as I would if she were standing by my side. I know there are countless others out there who are grieving the loss of their babies and are afraid that they will be forgotten in the hustle and bustle of life.
So with this thread please feel free to talk directly to your babies, tell them what you need to tell them as many times and as often as you need to. And know that so many of us feel this with you. I hope this provides many of us with some healing and a place to be heard whenever we need it.
Charlie,
It's been 3 weeks without you. I still open the front door and expect to see your face poking out and howling at me. We have gotten better but it's so hard. Mom, Kristen and I talk about you everyday. I don't know what to do with myself anymore. Kristen and I just finished school and I was so looking forward to spending the summer with you. I know you hated the heat, but you would never pass up a hike or walk. I hope you're happy where you are, and know how much I love and miss you. I dreamt about you the other night and was so happy to hold you, kiss you, and pet your fur again. I missed your sweet eyes looking at me. I wish you were here to sit with me, those were always my most peaceful and happiest moments. After a long day, I was so excited to come home to you. Now there is nothing. I hope I see you again soon. Love you forever and always and I'll never stop thinking about you or missing you.
"Charlie,
It's been 3 weeks without you. I still open the front door and expect to see your face poking out and howling at me. We have gotten better but it's so hard. Mom, Kristen and I talk about you everyday. I don't know what to do with myself anymore. Kristen and I just finished school and I was so looking forward to spending the summer with you. I know you hated the heat, but you would never pass up a hike or walk. I hope you're happy where you are, and know how much I love and miss you. I dreamt about you the other night and was so happy to hold you, kiss you, and pet your fur again. I missed your sweet eyes looking at me. I wish you were here to sit with me, those were always my most peaceful and happiest moments. After a long day, I was so excited to come home to you. Now there is nothing. I hope I see you again soon. Love you forever and always and I'll never stop thinking about you or missing you."
Charlie is ok. Right now he is running and frolicking with a multitude of smiling, exuberant Goldens, stretched across miles and miles of green grassy fields. My Homer is one of them.
It is so very, very hard to lose a best friend like your Charlie. But when all our work is completed here on this earth, we will see our dear Golden Angels once again. Until then, we need to honor their memory by giving the same joy, love and happiness to others as that they gave to us and to live our lives with the same positive spirit with which our precious, beloved Goldens greeted each day.
Take good care. It does take time. But it does get better.
"Charlie, It's been 3 weeks without you. I still open the front door and expect to see your face poking out and howling at me. We have gotten better but it's so hard. Mom, Kristen and I talk about you everyday. I don't know what to do with myself anymore. Kristen and I just finished school and I was so looking forward to spending the summer with you. I know you hated the heat, but you would never pass up a hike or walk. I hope you're happy where you are, and know how much I love and miss you. I dreamt about you the other night and was so happy to hold you, kiss you, and pet your fur again. I missed your sweet eyes looking at me. I wish you were here to sit with me, those were always my most peaceful and happiest moments. After a long day, I was so excited to come home to you. Now there is nothing. I hope I see you again soon. Love you forever and always and I'll never stop thinking about you or missing you."
Charlie is ok. Right now he is running and frolicking with a multitude of smiling, exuberant Goldens, stretched across miles and miles of green grassy fields. My Homer is one of them.
It is so very, very hard to lose a best friend like your Charlie. But when all our work is completed here on this earth, we will see our dear Golden Angels once again. Until then, we need to honor their memory by giving the same joy, love and happiness to others as that they gave to us and to live our lives with the same positive spirit with which our precious, beloved Goldens greeted each day.
Take good care. It does take time. But it does get better.
Thank you olliversmom, your reply really makes me feel much better. Sometimes I just worry and question where he is, but it's reassuring to hear others say he is okay and in a happy place. I know he must be. And you're right, he would want me to be happy and spread that joy to others. I am happy he is with other happy goldens including your Homer. I can't wait to see him again. Thank you again, I truly appreciate it.
I'm sorry I decided for you when it was time to go. You might have wanted to hang on even though you were in pain because we shared such a bond and neither of us wanted to be separated from each other. I still don't know if my decision was right for you, I just couldn't see you suffering, knowing you would only get worse. The lymphoma took your sight and you couldn't enjoy any of your favourite things anymore. Your eyes were hurting and you couldn't breathe comfortably. Your body was shutting down. I love you, Harpur and I hope I did the right thing for you. xxx
Jenny4
You did the right thing, doesn't make it any easier. To see them suffer just isn't right. Its so hard when we lose a heart dog. Take it one day at a time, post often if need be. many of us have been where you are. The pain will soften one day soon, doesn't mean you don't love your heart dog any less. A new puppy a;ways helped to heal a part of my broken heart.
Jenny 4, believe that you did the right thing. Someone on this forum said "we keep them here for us, we let them go for them. It is so hard to find the courage to make the decision that you did, but it is the greatest act of love that we give them. They give undying love, and with that love we owe them the unselfish choice to let them go. It is so very difficult to do....you did it because it was right for your baby. He will await you at the bridge. May you find solace in knowing that Harper is pain free and playing like a pup again with many other angels.
I can barely respond because I can't see the keyboard for the tears. It still feels too fresh to try and say much about our Sophie girl, who we lost last November, except to say how much we miss her. Even though our new girl Abby has stolen our hearts, I think about Sophie every day. Thanks for this thread - it helps to read your posts.
Well Liberty, it has been 8 long weeks since you left my sweet girl. I still miss you so much. We're at camp again. There are chipmunks and squirrels everywhere, you would be so happy! Artie spent the day watching them, he's exhausted tonight. He swam a lot today. He's doing better but I can still tell when he's looking for you. We're going to be getting a puppy Lib....it doesn't mean that Mommy will ever stop loving you. I would give anything to have you back. Please know how much I love you. I'm sure Artie won't be happy for a bit...his nose will be a little bent out of shape, but I think he will love his little brother before long. ..it will be a little brother because Mommy just can't bear the thought of another little girl yet. You will always be my first Angel.
Well Liberty, it has been 8 long weeks since you left my sweet girl. I still miss you so much. We're at camp again. There are chipmunks and squirrels everywhere, you would be so happy! Artie spent the day watching them, he's exhausted tonight. He swam a lot today. He's doing better but I can still tell when he's looking for you. We're going to be getting a puppy Lib....it doesn't mean that Mommy will ever stop loving you. I would give anything to have you back. Please know how much I love you. I'm sure Artie won't be happy for a bit...his nose will be a little bent out of shape, but I think he will love his little brother before long. ..it will be a little brother because Mommy just can't bear the thought of another little girl yet. You will always be my first Angel.
Artnlibsmom, I am glad to read Artie is enjoying the camping and that he will soon have company. Nobody will replace you Lib, but it is great that you will open your heart for a new furry babe. I think Lib would be happy to know this, ...My best to you and your family....
Ylan
Please post and read often, you really will find a great support group here. All of us that have lost heart dogs have been where you are. Somedays its pretty easy, other days not so much. We are all here to help your broken heart heal.
Mike, The old Lady Classy Lady Lilly and of course the little trouble maker Abby
It is one year today that we had to say goodbye to you. This may have been the hardest year for me. More so than losing some friends and family in the past. Does that make me insane? I've had such a difficult time saying goodbye to you, letting go and moving on. The pain has subsided now to a dull ache in my heart instead of a sharp stabbing pain when I think of you and your soft little head. I find that I am still angry at having only enjoyed your love for five short years instead of the ten or twelve that many talk about. I'm still very angry at the multitude of vets you had to endure and their mis diagnoses. But I'm working on it. I try to remember that those five years you were my constant companion were some of the happiest of my lifetime. Your gentleness, your mischievousness, how incredibly well behaved you were. Wherever we went you were always payed a compliment. So beautiful.
You were my first dog. And in my heart, my one and only dog. I had no idea what I was doing in raising you, but somehow you turned out to be the most perfect and wonderful dog anyone could ask for. You were my best friend. I would have done anything to protect you yet I feel I let you down in the end. Perhaps something I did or did not do that brought on your cancer. I still think about you every day and sometimes I can't wait to get to heaven to see you. I will be SO excited to run and greet you. To rub your soft little downy ears and to kiss that spot on the side of your nose. You know the spot. The spot that made you do a doggy sigh and a roll on your back whenever I came home to find you sleeping in your bed.
I would give anything to hold you one more time. But I guess I will have to wait. In the meantime, please be happy. Please find some friends to play with. I know you like people more, but find a best friend and have a wonderful time until I get there. I worry about you up there and that your sad and missing us. I think that's what keeps me up the most at nights. Run through the fields, run through the forest, chase the squirrels and the rabbits like you love to do. Nap in the meadows in the perfectly warm sun. Drink from the sweet creeks and rivers. In the blink of an eye I will be there holding you and kissing your little nose.
It is one year today that we had to say goodbye to you. This may have been the hardest year for me. More so than losing some friends and family in the past. Does that make me insane? I've had such a difficult time saying goodbye to you, letting go and moving on. The pain has subsided now to a dull ache in my heart instead of a sharp stabbing pain when I think of you and your soft little head. I find that I am still angry at having only enjoyed your love for five short years instead of the ten or twelve that many talk about. I'm still very angry at the multitude of vets you had to endure and their mis diagnoses. But I'm working on it. I try to remember that those five years you were my constant companion were some of the happiest of my lifetime. Your gentleness, your mischievousness, how incredibly well behaved you were. Wherever we went you were always payed a compliment. So beautiful.
You were my first dog. And in my heart, my one and only dog. I had no idea what I was doing in raising you, but somehow you turned out to be the most perfect and wonderful dog anyone could ask for. You were my best friend. I would have done anything to protect you yet I feel I let you down in the end. Perhaps something I did or did not do that brought on your cancer. I still think about you every day and sometimes I can't wait to get to heaven to see you. I will be SO excited to run and greet you. To rub your soft little downy ears and to kiss that spot on the side of your nose. You know the spot. The spot that made you do a doggy sigh and a roll on your back whenever I came home to find you sleeping in your bed.
I would give anything to hold you one more time. But I guess I will have to wait. In the meantime, please be happy. Please find some friends to play with. I know you like people more, but find a best friend and have a wonderful time until I get there. I worry about you up there and that your sad and missing us. I think that's what keeps me up the most at nights. Run through the fields, run through the forest, chase the squirrels and the rabbits like you love to do. Nap in the meadows in the perfectly warm sun. Drink from the sweet creeks and rivers. In the blink of an eye I will be there holding you and kissing your little nose.
Thinking of you today on this sad anniversary day. I know you miss your Jesse as I miss my Buddy. Hope our kids found each other to play together while waiting for us to join them. When you say ..."sometimes I can't wait to get to heaven to see you", I have those moments too. Hugs.
When I said goodbye to my Allie it was harder than losing anyone else in my life. Our dogs give us so much and ask for so little. I believe they are safe in the arms of the lord till we see them again. They are happy and just waiting for us. When we see them again it will be forever.
Hey baby girl, we're coming up on 10 weeks since you had to go to the bridge.
Mommy still misses you so very much. I still just want YOU back. We went yesterday to see your new baby brother, you'll meet him someday.... It was so hard, Mommy broke down and bawled like a baby. It is supposed to just be exciting meeting your new baby, there shouldn't be this bittersweet pain that goes with it. This is very close to the same time I met you, eight years ago. You were this unbelievably adorable little girl. You were so smart, smarter than Mommy by far, and it only took you a minute to steal my heart and wrap me around your tiny paw. You looked up at me with those deep brown eyes, and looked into my soul. I knew right away that it was you and me! I knew that you were my special girl. Something inside of me just connected with you unlike ever before. You were a part of me, I was a part of you, we still are and we always will be. Mommy sees something in this new little boy, an old soul maybe....but he will never be you. Your spot is secure in my heart forever Princess. Sent from Petguide.com Free App
My angel Ylan, I haven't been feeling well this past couple of weeks. Staying home sick is no fun yet you use to make it easier with your love and company. I miss you so much. Now looking at your pictures makes me think of all our good times together and helps me hold on. I love you Ylan, with all my heart, mind and soul....
Emmy, my sweet little girl, oh how I miss you still. I know you see that we have adopted Gussee. She is a wonderful little girl. Sometimes I accidentally call her Emmy but I know she doesn't care. There are so many things that remind me of you. Do you think she does things so we keep thinking about you. Remember your little happy dance when it was time to eat? Gussee does that so we call it the Emmy dance. I know you are with BoBo and happy and healthy but we miss you so here. You will always be in my heart. Give all my boys at the bridge a kiss from mommy. I love you.
Missing you today and always Char. We watched your videos today and had a good laugh. You sure were one of a kind. We'll never find another you for as long as we live. The nights are the hardest. I think of you the most and get upset and worried thinking about you. But it's strange, I feel you with me a lot. I never feel alone, I always feel you near me or close by. I hope you're there and I hope you're always close. Miss and love you more than words could say. Be good til I see you again.
Hi CharlieCooper
Welcome to the forum, so sorry for your loss. Feel free to come often and post about Charlie. There are many who have walked in your shoes, they will be here to support you when you need it.
Two more days Libby until your little brother meets his new little brother. I love you so much. Please be here with us. Guide me in loving him and doing right by him. And if you could guide him in being as good as you were I'd appreciate it. Love you Baby Girl.
Artnlibsmom
Libby will be watching over all of you, she will send you signals when you least expect it. A new puppy will help heal your broken heart. Please start a new thread in the puppy section so we can all share your new love. The healing begins.
My dearest Homer. Your new little brother Olliver is very sweet and good. He has begun to do "Homer things:" carrying his stuffed toy and then adding my shirt, or socks or underpants when greeting us. On my bday last week, he swam out at the lake and stopped to retrieve a second stick on his way back in. Just like you would do. Knew for sure u were there with us in the early morning saying 'hello.'
I adore your little bro. But I also miss you every single day my friend.
I miss our quiet chats. I miss sitting on the hill with you, watching the sunset. I miss your giant copper head in my lap and you lying next to my desk every morning.
You were a one of a kind treasure my sweet, sweet boy. I hope you and dad and Joshua are having a great time at the Raibow bridge lake. Catching fish, fetching sticks and enjoying a swim in the nice cool waters. Love love love you. Mom
Hey mister, today at 855p you will be gone for 6 months. Not a day goes by that dad and I don't talk to you. We miss you terribly. Everyone here was shocked that you went to the bridge. They remember what a great boy you were. There are no words to describe how much we miss you. Nothing is the same. I miss our walks that we took together. I just miss you little boy. Every day I cry for you. I thought I was getting better. I made a decision to get a pup, maybe this is why I'm crying. I don't want you to think I'm going to forget you. I will always remember my little boy and the wonderful times we spent together. Well, I'll let you get back to your friends. Love you forever Mister. Mom and Dad
Monty, I'm having a terrible day today. I miss you so much. I'll love you forever little boy. I hope you are happy and well. I just wish you were here with dad and me. Love forever, mom
Hey Libby, I'm not sure this was a smart choice bringing this new little guy into our home. Artie tolerates him, but he obviously isn't thrilled. I think just like me, he still wants you back. This little guy tries SO hard with Artie. The one good thing I saw today was Artie did bark at Justice while Justice was playing....of course it scared Justice, so that ended playtime.....I know I have to have patience, but I want to see Artie happy again, the way he was when you were here.....miss you so Princess. Love, Mommy
Hi Artnlibsmom
Just be patience they will work it out. After I lost Katie Lilly just kinda moped around and I could tell she missed her. I bought Abby home and Lilly didn't want anything to do her, little Abby tried everything to get Lilly to play. After two or three weeks I was sitting in the living room Abby by my feet and her comes Lilly with a stuffed animal in her mouth, walks up to Abby and shakes it right in front of her. The games began that day and they play like they have been friends forever. Give it some time and Artie will soon join in the play time.
I'm so glad you are still around the house. While it is often painful, my heart sings to see you in Lila, to feel you blowing in the wind, and to know that you are Pearl's fairy. I knew that I couldn't put your jolly ball away, or bury it. I knew you'd come back to it. I wish you were still here in body, hair blowing in the breeze and running faster than the wind.
I adored from from before you were conceived, and will do so forever.
Oh my Gypsy girl...
I have no idea why I'm missing you so terribly this week. It's been nearly 5 months since I helped you to the bridge, and I thought that the grief would fade with time, and it has in the way that it's not a physical ache every day. But I just had no idea that out of the blue, it would come back and hit me in the chest so suddenly I would feel like I couldn't catch my breath for a bit, and that I'd still cry for you like I do.
I feel like an awful mom to Karma. She can't help being a puppy, and my expectations of her can become unrealistic after a long day. I know she's trying, and I feel so guilty about being impatient, and yelling, and hoping it's not because she's not you.
Give us a hand now and then, would you? I miss you every day. I hope you know just how great you were, and how very much I still love you.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I just wanted to let you know, you completely captured how I feel with my Athena who passed four months ago and my new puppy, Colt, who is 2 months old. He keeps me so busy but sometimes out of the blue I just miss Athena so much and want him to be her so badly I can't help but cry like the loss was yesterday.
I think we just have to be as patient with ourselves as we are trying to be with our new puppies.
Just wanted to let you know you're not alone in feeling this way.
Nitro, hope u enjoyed your 14th birthday yesterday, wished we could of celeb rated it together! Hugs to you snf Nash... P.S. sending me Neeko was a great move, he s being loved and healing our heart!!! :--heart::--heart::--heart:
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