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You won't be able to reply by private msg. to a private msg. until you have 15 posts. You have 10 posts now, so need 5 more. If you give Claire's Friend and Sheldon's Mom your email then can reply to you that way, or post to them in Jasper's thread here.

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In regards to the little puppy you had for a short time: I have never personally had an experience like this but many here on the forum have. Some pups are just wired wrong, and the aggression escalates as they get older and bigger. A vet and an experienced trainer told you this was not a normal puppy. It was not your fault. You are ready for a puppy, you just need to find the right one, and there are many here that can help you with this.
I'm 62 and retired and even though I do a lot of other stuff, my dog is a big part of my day so I can definitely understand that as well as the huge emotional void, there is also the "so what am I supposed to do with myself" feeling.
I hope your ankle is healing nicely. Start searching for your pup and planning for his or her arrival.

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I just saw your post . I would be happy to help you. Just give me a day or two to find
the info. Just to let you know I'm 60 years old too (aghh ). I would post pictures of my
goldens Sheldon, Gracie, Jenny and Mandy if I only I knew how. Not tech savy.
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Hi ClairesFriend,

I understand that I don't yet have enough posts to reply to your PM. So my answer would be, would you tell me (in a PM) whether the breeder has a website or questionnaire, whether s/he accepts visitors to her kennels, whether it's possible to meet one or both of the parents, clearances--and anything else you think is significant.

Please, anyone, I am open to advice. I had thought I did a good search before with the pup, Lily, who didn't work out. And I failed miserably.
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Jane, so sorry to read that Jasper is now at the bridge. They leave such a massive hole in our lives when they leave us because they give their love so unconditionally. Sadly we have been through 4 losses, and as a kid I lost my first golden at just over 12 months old when he bit my brother, and the pain and hurt doesn;t lessen but we get better at coping with it. We don;t have children, so I suppose our dogs have become our "kids", and there is nothing that I wouldn't do for them.

To let another dog - whether it be a golden or something else - into your lives helps enormously, because it gives you something else to concentrate on - sadly it seems like the pup you had to send back just wasn;t meant to be and personally have never had a problem with any of our pups, but there will probably more experienced people who may be able to offer advice . Try and keep your happy memories in your mind - they will help you through these tough times

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Hi Sheldon's Mom,

Ah, a fellow soul who's passed that magic milestone of 60! Although, since I posted recent pictures of myself at the end of my first thread, that's likely pretty obvious. It's not hard to post pictures IF you have them on your computer. But you've already been told this, I'm sure. I'd love to see pictures of your babies!
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hi goldensmum,

it staggers my imagination to think of losing four beloved dogs. jasper is my first. my sincere condolences--you must be a resilient person.

I'm still very conflicted about returning the puppy. I keep thinking what the breeders clearly implied--that it was our fault somehow. They denied that the behaviors I was describing ever happened, and that through their additional training with her (they're into alpha rolls and the like) she became the perfect pup. She was certainly beautiful and smart. I just pray her placement now is a good one for her. Also I hope it will not be a "bad mark" on our record in terms of getting another dog.
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Beleive me, susan marie, AKA CLAIRES FRIEND, will help you, she is in rescue, and has a lovely dog, jordan.

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I'm delighted, especially since she has a dog from a place that is in fact local for us.

By the way--I'm Jane AKA Jane. I couldn't come up with anything more creative...
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She is super sweet, and a great person.

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