Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Upstate NY
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Thank you so much, AlanK. I actually would love to foster an older Golden, but I'm afraid of losing him or her so soon after Jasper! This has been such an overwhelming sorrow that I am just plain scared of going through it again so soon. I don't know that I have the strength.
In my quiet inner thoughts, I think I would love to do it though while having two dogs, maybe a puppy and then after a few months (to get through housebreaking, etc.), get an older foster dog. And if it "failed" and became an adoption, well, how nice. And then we'd still have a dog when we lost the older one; perhaps it would be less hard that way.
It's the only way we'd have two dogs, because my husband wants to be, at most, a one-dog family. Even though he IS a dog person, I think the last year, including the trauma of what happened with the puppy, has scared him. He wouldn't get another dog for himself. He is willing to get just one dog, as a marital compromise, because I want one so badly.
I practically ambush people on the street who are walking big, furry dogs--actually, ANY dog--wanting to pet their dog--I get down on the pavement and pet the dog for as long as they're willing to let me. If it's a Golden, it's hard for me even to tear myself away--they have a distinct "Golden" smell to me that reminds me of Jasper. I need to figure out what to do before I become a public nuisance...!
I'm sixty and I think I want one more puppy in my life--one more time of going through the entire experience, as we did with Jasper. I want to rescue as we did with him, but then I want a Golden so much...it's hard, and sometimes I just freeze up trying to figure out what to do.
ps--edited to add that my husband hasn't said "no" to our fostering a rescue after getting a puppy--I think he would be ok with it. We just spent a fortune fencing in our large back yard, before the puppy came to us briefly in September. The idea was to make having a dog(s) more manageable, since he walked Jasper twice a day for nearly 13 years...
Last edited by Jane; 01-03-2013 at 03:13 PM.