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Old 01-02-2013, 06:50 PM
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The golden genes do seem to be dominant. I have a friend who has a golden/ lab mix and even the vets think he is all golden.
One of our cats is named Jasper. He was a stray who turned out to be the biggest cuddler of all the cats.
And yes, we do think our Jess(Jesse) is a handsome boy.
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Old 01-02-2013, 07:02 PM
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I know what you mean about Jasper being your child. Ken and I don't have human children either and our dogs are our kids. We lost our Snobear (Samoyed) March 27, 2010 and then our Golden Retriever Girl, Smooch, on December 7, 2010. Ken and I have had two dogs now for the 26 years we've been together so when we lost Snobear we got Tonka (Samoyed) and then adopted our Golden Ret. Male, Tucker, from this forum. They just adore one another. Tucker is 4 now and Tonka is 3.

I will add Jasper to the 2011 Golden Ret. Rainbow Bridge List.
Here is the link to the Golden Rescues and I also think that maybe fostering would be great
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Old 01-02-2013, 07:06 PM
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I added Jasper to the 2011 Rainbow Bridge List:

http://www.goldenretrieverforum.com/...ml#post1875907 (GRF Goldens that passed in 2011 - The list)

What a beautiful boy!
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So sorry for your loss.My wifes heart dog Tawney passed 7 years ago & she still gets tears when her name comes up but she's much better after time.I didn't quite understand until I rescued Capt Jack but now every time he moves wrong I call the vet or get on here to ask.Sweetie is also a rescue & she's even more loving to the wife & daughter than Jack.So many on here can help you find a pup & I'll keep a lookout too if you want.Our prayers for your healing,a rescue can rescue you like they did me.
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I got my beautiful little Jordan in Albany. I can check around and see if people there know of any dogs needing homes, if you want ??? Also Jordan's cousin will be having a litter this spring. They are taking names now.
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Oh Jane, so many of us find this forum because of our lost goldens and almost, if not all, know the heartbreak of losing your baby. I am so sorry for your loss, it doesn't matter how long it has been, it still hurts.

I always thought Jorgee was closer to my husband than she was to me, but it was me she looked for that day when she passed, it is me that still cries just thinking about her, it is me that cries every time I read of another loss on this forum. They can't live forever but 10, 15, even 20 years is just not enough!

I am also sorry that you had such a horrible experience when you got a new puppy. I think you need to hang around bit more, there are some great breeders on this board that may be able to help you, if and when you decide to try again for a new baby to love.

We lost Jorg in June and although my husband didn't think the time was right, I knew I needed another, so he relented and we got Roxxi and she has been a God send, actually, I think she was a Jorgee send because she knew just what her mom needed!
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Dear Jane, first of all I am so very very sorry for the loss of your beautiful Jasper.. I know 14 years was not nearly long enough to share his life.. only those of us that have loved and been loved by a golden's heart can truly understand our grief.

I am new to this site, but parts of your post I could've written from some of my own life's journeys with my beloved babies... I am still deeply grieving the loss of my precious Mattie which crossed on 12/7/12 .. way too soon to part from us. My grief is still very intense and new and at times almost unbearable, but I felt led to reply to your post because it hit so close to my heart. And I know how important it is to see others that understand .. I check my posts multiple times to day for responses, because they mean so much to see that others really understand and care.

We learned of Mattie's cancer only about 4 weeks before .. she came to us 10 1/2 years ago after the loss of our 1st golden baby Sheeba, who also was taken by the dreadful c word. I tell you the care for each of them was very different, Sheeba's was a longterm illness, and little Mattie's was short-term and each was equally heart wrenching.

I too have only been retired 2 years while going thru this terrible loss, thinking I would have several years with my Mattie .. Now I find myself lost, empty, longing, and questioning my decision to retire which is past too late to even worry about. I came to this site looking for support because my dh IS tiring of my sadness and grief ... and sadly even my best of friends don't have a clue as to the deep loss I've suffered. We were not blessed with children, so Sheeba and Mattie ARE our children..

We lost our precious Sheeba in 2002, and in about 6 months we then found our baby Mattie.... at the time I was still grieving for Sheeba, and now realize that I'll always grieve for both of them ... I felt like I was dishonoring Sheeba to bring Mattie into her home, but we very soon learned that without Mattie I don't think I would have ever been able to move on .. And as I sit here reading my own words thru the tears, I find myself thinking when or if I'll be able to open my heart to a new love .. I try to never say never, because when the hurt is so deep my first response is to prevent ever going thru that again, but I know that I have all this love in my heart to give to another, and can't imagine life without another... the joy they give is so worth it all .. so maybe someday.

Listen to your heart, I know that sounds cleche' but it's true .. and you may experience some of the feelings I had after getting Mattie .. but I came to believe that Mattie was sent to me .. and that maybe my Sheeba had a part in sending her to me ... they were each their own personality, but so much the same too ..

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, they say our grief is as deep as our love, so I know I have a rough journey ahead .. God bless you .. Charlene
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I'm so very sorry for your loss of Jasper, he was a beautiful boy and I know he was very special to you. He had a good long life with you and I know you have many wonderful memories of him which will always be with you.

People grieve in their own way and in their own time. You need to give your heart time to heal. Jasper will always be with you although you won't see him.

I lost my 15.5 yr. old boy almost two years ago now. It seems like it was only yesterday in many ways and in others it feels like it's been a lifetime since he was with us. I can feel his presence, I know he's always there right beside us. I have so many wonderful memories of him, I also have times where I still cry and wish he was still with us.

Both of my goldens are adopted, my girl from a GR Rescue, she's been with us 6 years. Shortly after my boy passed, I adopted my boy from my County Humane Society, he's been with us almost 2 years now. He helped our hearts heal and has brought so much joy back into our lives.

I use to help the GR Rescue I adopted my girl from, they closed 2 years ago. Volunteering or Fostering would be a wonderful option for you if you have a GR Rescue close by. If not, I hope you're able to find a pup to bring into your home when you are ready.
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So very sorry for your loss. My Allie was almost 13 when she passed. She took care of me after my surgery also. Stayed by my side for the two years it took till I got better. It is just so hard when they have to leave us. There was part of me that just wanted to go with her. She was my life. I got a puppy a few months after Allie passed and it helped. Still miss my girl but I see the golden traits in Mia that I loved so much in Allie. Take care..
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Thank you so much, AlanK. I actually would love to foster an older Golden, but I'm afraid of losing him or her so soon after Jasper! This has been such an overwhelming sorrow that I am just plain scared of going through it again so soon. I don't know that I have the strength.

In my quiet inner thoughts, I think I would love to do it though while having two dogs, maybe a puppy and then after a few months (to get through housebreaking, etc.), get an older foster dog. And if it "failed" and became an adoption, well, how nice. And then we'd still have a dog when we lost the older one; perhaps it would be less hard that way.

It's the only way we'd have two dogs, because my husband wants to be, at most, a one-dog family. Even though he IS a dog person, I think the last year, including the trauma of what happened with the puppy, has scared him. He wouldn't get another dog for himself. He is willing to get just one dog, as a marital compromise, because I want one so badly.

I practically ambush people on the street who are walking big, furry dogs--actually, ANY dog--wanting to pet their dog--I get down on the pavement and pet the dog for as long as they're willing to let me. If it's a Golden, it's hard for me even to tear myself away--they have a distinct "Golden" smell to me that reminds me of Jasper. I need to figure out what to do before I become a public nuisance...!

I'm sixty and I think I want one more puppy in my life--one more time of going through the entire experience, as we did with Jasper. I want to rescue as we did with him, but then I want a Golden so much...it's hard, and sometimes I just freeze up trying to figure out what to do.

ps--edited to add that my husband hasn't said "no" to our fostering a rescue after getting a puppy--I think he would be ok with it. We just spent a fortune fencing in our large back yard, before the puppy came to us briefly in September. The idea was to make having a dog(s) more manageable, since he walked Jasper twice a day for nearly 13 years...

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