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I am just seeing this now, not sure how I have missed it.
10 years ago I lost my best friend to lung cancer, in the years before I lost grandparents to different forms of cancer as well...
Two years ago last October, my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer, it was a particularily aggressive form, he ended up having cryo and since it was caught early has an excellent prognosis, then in November my husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer, he had a major surgery and his last check up they found that it was trying to come back around the incision site, it's not cancer yet, but he is having more surgery to remove the new polyps Feb 20th...then in May of 2011 my oldests sons girlfriend was diagnosed with not one but two forms of breast cancer...after three surgeries they finally took the whole breast, she was only 25....She now is faced with what to do with the other breast and watching her struggle to decide whether to have another full removal or chance it coming back is agonizing, she is such a special young lady it's just not fair...unfortunately I'm no stranger to cancer, I really wish I was.
I also do Home Health care and Hospice. I hate cancer and all that goes with it, but have learned that life is precious and short and I need to tell those in my life I love them now not later...I'm glad you have a relationship with your dad now, what went before doesn't matter what does is what is now.
My beliefs are formed from taking care of so many patients in their last days, weeks, months, so take it for what it is worth and please do what you are comfortable with...so here it goes. Telling your father he can go if he wants to is a gift you give him. I won't go into more detail here except to say that releasing someone from more suffering by giving them the gift of knowing you will be ok, is not selfish at all....If you want to talk to me more about the things I have experienced, seen and done feel free to PM me. I just don't feel right going into great detail on the forum if you don't want me too...
My prayers well wishes and thoughts are with you as you go through this...sending you hugs...