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Prayers! I'm so sorry. It's hard being so far away. I pray for peace.

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Plan for a visit, dinner with Daddy and take some pictures if you can ... Valentine day is coming up. It is not just for lovers. I hate the word - Cancer.

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I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you are feeling. I'm praying for your Dad, you, and your family.
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Although we know in our brains that everyone is going to die someday, we never really expect it to happen to someone we love I think. It's wonderful that you did reconnect with your dad and can say "I love you" and hear him say it back. It's very hard to do, but I really hope you can just let go of the "what if" lost years and not beat yourself up. You have him now, and he loves you now, and that's what matters.

Sending prayers and hugs to you from far away. XXXXX OOOOO
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Keeping your Dad and your family in our thoughts and prayers. I saw how terrible it was for my nephews to watch my brother die of cancer. Am so sorry that you're all going thru such a dark and painful time. Holding you in our prayers for strength.

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Thanks! It's been a while since I've talked to him. No update yet. All of my calls go to voicemail. I think he forgets to call me back, which is typical. I just hope the radiation isn't kicking his butt too badly. He might also be wiped out and just doesn't have the energy to talk. Our conversation are increasingly short, and he is getting increasingly skinny. I think he's down to 105 from 160 in his prime and 135 last year.

I just don't know how to tell him to go if he wants to go. It feels awkward and ungrateful. Selfish and childish, as if I'm telling him I don't need him anymore, which is so very far from the truth. My gf is dealing with the death of her wife, and she tells me that she understands her wife is dead but is struggling to deal with her wife not being around. Idk if that makes sense. She's lost her father to a chronic disease so she knows where I'm coming from. I wonder if ill be strong enough to deal when he passes or if I'll sink into a state of denial. Even now, I forget he's sick until I go to call him and it hits me all over again.

We're planning on visiting in July, I'll be dragging my brother (whose fighting me tooth and nail) because realistically every phone call, every visit could be the last.


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Thanks! It's been a while since I've talked to him. No update yet. All of my calls go to voicemail. I think he forgets to call me back, which is typical. I just hope the radiation isn't kicking his butt too badly. He might also be wiped out and just doesn't have the energy to talk. Our conversation are increasingly short, and he is getting increasingly skinny. I think he's down to 105 from 160 in his prime and 135 last year.

I just don't know how to tell him to go if he wants to go. It feels awkward and ungrateful. Selfish and childish, as if I'm telling him I don't need him anymore, which is so very far from the truth. My gf is dealing with the death of her wife, and she tells me that she understands her wife is dead but is struggling to deal with her wife not being around. Idk if that makes sense. She's lost her father to a chronic disease so she knows where I'm coming from. I wonder if ill be strong enough to deal when he passes or if I'll sink into a state of denial. Even now, I forget he's sick until I go to call him and it hits me all over again.

We're planning on visiting in July, I'll be dragging my brother (whose fighting me tooth and nail) because realistically every phone call, every visit could be the last.


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Personally, I wouldn't wait until July. I know there are many considerations that I don't have a clue about--finances, etc.--but if he's that ill and he's not talking on the phone much.... Is there a caregiver there who can answer the phone and put it into his hands? If he's managing his voice mail by himself, and if he's letting the phone roll over all the time, you may have a hard time getting him on the phone at all. Again, so sorry you're having to go through all this at a distance.
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Sorry your family are going through this, thinking of you!






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Personally, I wouldn't wait until July. I know there are many considerations that I don't have a clue about--finances, etc.--but if he's that ill and he's not talking on the phone much.... Is there a caregiver there who can answer the phone and put it into his hands? If he's managing his voice mail by himself, and if he's letting the phone roll over all the time, you may have a hard time getting him on the phone at all. Again, so sorry you're having to go through all this at a distance.
He's not bedridden that i know of, he's very mobile, he just cannot be active for more than an hour at a time because he gets too tired. His wife (my step-mom) takes care of him. I would need to fly from San Diego to Portland, Oregon. Last time i looked at tickets, roundtrip cost ~$250. Does anyone know of a cheaper airline that services that area?

I can only go on weekends because of my job.


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I've been wondering if you had any updates on your dad. Still praying for him, and you too.
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