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Actually there are a number of reports that Adam Lanza had mental problems. For example, the Washington Post reports, "Lanza was believed to have suffered from a personality disorder, said a law enforcement official who spoke on condition of anonymity.

"Another law enforcement official, also speaking on condition of anonymity, said Lanza also had been diagnosed with Asperger’s, a mild form of autism often characterized by social awkwardness." The article goes on to say, "Richard Novia, the school district’s head of security until 2008, who also served as adviser for the high school technology club, of which Lanza was a member, said he clearly a 'had some disabilities.' 'If that boy would’ve burned himself, he would not have known it or felt it physically,' Novia said in a phone interview. 'It was my job to pay close attention to that.'"

The story is here: Conn. school gunman had ‘lots of ammo,’ source says, suggesting even deadlier plan - The Washington Post.

It is simply incomprehensible to me that any sane person could kill so many small children and then kill himself. That just defies the definition of sanity. I believe that mental illness in the perpetrators is the one common thread among the mass murders that have happened recently.
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Somethings that are rarely mentioned. The parents of the deceased children deal with a huge amount of guilt. More often then not it results in broken marriages and families. Not all but a very eye-opening percentage of divorces occur along with substance abuse and suicide.
The same could be said for the first responders, the medical examiners and all that are investigating. Not to forget all those that survived in the school. PTSD will follow all for a very long time. This cowardly crime will be dealt with for years.
Just so heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time. 2 emotions that never have worked well together.
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They have goldens on CNN right now helping the town grieve. Omg they are gorgeous and they are helping , this makes me happy. Click image for larger version

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I don't understand how the mother, knowing she had a son with mental disorders, could have guns in her home. Obviously not locked away in a safe with a lock and code. Her son had problems, and she knew it. She is just as guilty as he is.

I HATE guns! Stupidist invention ever! Fighting violence with violence is never the answer.

I have had a constant dull headache for the past two days from trying to hold back tears. Sometimes I can't hold them in. My heart aches for these sweet angels and the adults that died trying to protect them. Part of me is dead.
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I can vouch for the good our dogs can do bringing comfort and a sense of stability in this tragic happening. I would suggest that those who can get their dogs out and about to give people a point of normalness and a place for tears to fall without judgement.

Especially our goldens - I know my goldens were very welcome this past weekend wherever we went; our whole country and beyond needs comfort ..


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I think what you said about our Goldens is so beautiful and so true.

God Bless the people and the Goldens that made the trip to Newtown.
I'm sure they touched MANY LIVES and hearts!

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Very sad and very horrible!

But.. I think it is time to stop all the newscoverage day and night.
If I had a child that died in this horrible event, I doubt I would want to have 24/7 newscoverage about it. I do not think it helps the healing process at all.
The murderer is dead, there is no-one to blame anymore, let it rest.

On the "Today" show, a family member just expressed something similar. He said that the family will not watch newscoverage about it, because they do not need to hear the details.
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The way the CT State Police is handling this is very impressive.
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I think part of the problem with children with personality disorders or whatever the issue may have been, is once the child is 18 or out of the school system, the programs are no longer available. Now these young adults and their families are just out there to fend for themselves.


One thing that really was a eye opener for me this weekend, is when I was talking about this to my children, yes, they were upset but not upset and shocked the same way my husband and I were. I realized that this is the new norm for my children's generation. The Oklahoma bombing, Columbine, 9/11 all happenned when they were toddlers or before they were born. Mall shootings and cinema shootings are something that they have always been aware of. It is really a sad world to grow up in.

I also don't think I could be as brave as those teachers were. I am amazed at how heroic ALL of them were, not just one or two.

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I don't understand how the mother, knowing she had a son with mental disorders, could have guns in her home. Obviously not locked away in a safe with a lock and code. Her son had problems, and she knew it. She is just as guilty as he is.
People with Aspergers don't routinely kill others and certainly don't routinely go on shooting rampages. I think it's really unfair to blame another victim of this tragedy. We have NO idea if the guns were locked away. No idea what she knew or didn't know. No idea if this guy just snapped and lost it. Even if she knew he suffered from some sort of disorder (Aspergers or something else) I'm fairly certain the mother could never have predicted he would ultimately end up doing what he did. I don't think finger pointing is the solution here...it's figuring out how to prevent it from happening again.

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