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Unhappy Had a scare last night...

I got up last night to use the rest room, (one of many trips every night...I'm old), and I checked on Chance as I always do. But this time it truly looked as if he wasn't breathing. Of course I panicked and called his name. He didn't respond! I called louder and he still didn't move. I touched his head and then he finally woke up.

I can not describe the pain that was building up in me before I realized he was just sleeping. I knew that I would lose it when he leaves me, but the intensity of what I felt last night scared me. He really is my world. You guys are always so good about bringing things into perspective. Any words to help me push past this and enjoy my time with Chance instead of dwelling on such heart wrenching thoughts? My anxiety level is off the hook today. I can't seem to shake last night's experience.

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When they are Seniors, it's normal for them to sleep so soundly.


Try not to focus on the what ifs or the inevitable, if you do, you will miss out on so much joy.

Enjoy each and every day, every moment, every second. Make the most of the time you have.
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It was super hot here in MA yesterday night, so I had interrupted sleep. And around 4.30 am I awoke to use the bathroom. I noticed Maya, who had experienced equally interrupted sleep, lying outside our bedroom. Usually she stirs a bit, greet us with a tail thump even when exhausted, and then fall asleep. But yest she didn't. So I slowly walked to her, knelt by her side. Still nothing. So I gently said her name and pet her and she finally awoke from deep sleep. I felt bad I had woken her up, but relieved nonetheless.

Mind you, Maya is only 2 and a half. But because I love her so much, I can get easily paranoid. It reminds me of when I was a child - I had horrible nightmares that prevented me from sleeping, so invariably I would go to my parents' room and somewhat eerily I admit, watch them sleeping. Except if I did not hear my father breathe or make some sound, I would hold my finger under his nostrils and would only feel reassured when I felt him exhale.

Carolina Mom said it best - enjoy each moment to the fullest.
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I was so sad when I read your post. You already have such a stressful life please try to take Carolina Mom's. Excellent advice. Difficult to do I know but it makes good sense.

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I remember this happening a number of times with my sheltie. It was equally as terrifying each time. I feel for you, I know it's not easy to have those thoughts in the back of your mind whenever you see your dog sleeping deeply. She did live at least a couple of good years after this started happening though. Like Carolina Mom says, enjoy each and every day that you have.
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I do the same thing....once a year without fail, I check Neeko, (he's only 4) and I used to check my Nitro & Nash...they all were sound sleepers...I would call them, then shake them, and I'd get a glazed eye...I would then check their gums...just couldnt help myself...they were just sleeping, just 2 mos. ago, Neeko seemed sluggish during the day, I checked him in the middle of the night, and he didnt get up... I freaked, told my hubby I was taking him to the vet....He called him, and he got up...he was just sleeping!!!!!! But like you, I panicked...try not to, not very easy, but Im down to doing it once every yr now....I've sorta learned...

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I never really checked on him a lot, (like I do now), when he was younger. It's just been since he was about 11. That's the age I lost Savanah.

Chance will be 13 in a few months and I just feel the need to check him all the time. He can't hear very well anymore and his vision isn't what it used to be. We're growing old together and I just want him with me forever. Sometimes I think maybe I'm weird to love him so much but then I come on here and know that I'm not alone in my feelings, that everyone here is just like me. Feels good...thanks.

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I understand the feeling and the cold fear that grips you when your sweet dog doesn't immediately wake up when you check on them. Gracie is 13 years old. I am frequently awake at night and find myself checking her. Because she is a very, very sound sleep (especially on days when she is exhausted) I don't know how many times I have felt fear when I have thought she wasn't breathing or how many times I have laid my head on her to make sure she has a heartbeat. I love this dog dearly and, as a result, I worry about her passing. Logically I know she is 13 years old and that she will not live forever. I also realize that she is in excellent health and that the moment anything looks even slightly off she is rushed to the vet. Frankly I think she is in better health and has better care than I, as her human, have. None of that seems to enter my mind those nights when, very late at night, the fear grips me. I calm myself after I have awoken the poor dog yet another time with the knowledge that there is no indication of ANY health problems in Gracie right now (Thank goodness) and as a result a sudden passing is not likely. I also remind myself that Gracie has always been a mama's girl who at the first sign of something being wrong alerts me to it whether it be a problem with her or anyone else. I also remind myself that at the age of 13 every single day with her is a gift and then I give her one of the body massages she loves which helps to calm me. I then give her a kiss, tell her she is the best girl in the world and I return to bed knowing that should anything horrible happen during the remainder of the night she will know how very much she is loved. It is all that I can do. It is so hard. I know.

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I got up last night to use the rest room, (one of many trips every night...I'm old), and I checked on Chance as I always do. But this time it truly looked as if he wasn't breathing. Of course I panicked and called his name. He didn't respond! I called louder and he still didn't move. I touched his head and then he finally woke up.

I can not describe the pain that was building up in me before I realized he was just sleeping. I knew that I would lose it when he leaves me, but the intensity of what I felt last night scared me. He really is my world. You guys are always so good about bringing things into perspective. Any words to help me push past this and enjoy my time with Chance instead of dwelling on such heart wrenching thoughts? My anxiety level is off the hook today. I can't seem to shake last night's experience.
For sure it's scary, but Lance would sleep thru me calling him many times. Enjoy your time, make great memories!
Lance is now gone, but I still smile at his silly pictures and how he made me laugh.


The Angels...Lance & Sierra... run free babies. I'll see you again.
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I understand, too. I've done the same with both my dogs - and my current dog is only 4. But your heart just stops when you wake up in the middle of the night, look at them sleeping and can't see their chest going up and down, and then when you make a little noise, and there's no usual response. I've woken mine out of deep sleeps, too, in a flood of relief.

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