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What can I do..

My kids do not understand that I love them more than anything. They do not get that my only concern now is my dog girls. They all have there life and a good one and I am happy for that. My grandkids have a great life and so do my kids. They resent me for worrying about my dog girls. My girls do not have a choice what happens to them if something happens to me. I just want to know how to make sure they are ok if I die. I love them and they deserve that consideration. They are my life and I owe them that. What can I do to make sure they are cared for if I cannot do that for them. I so want do so what is right for my girls.
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My backup plan should I die - my dogs will go to my family.

If by bizarre incident we all pass away, then I have friends (dog related) who I can entrust my dogs.

My thing is that for peace of mind - mine - I will do everything I can to ensure that my dogs will never end up in the hands of people who will not love them as much as I do.

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Several years ago, I volunteered in the owner relinquishment "department" of a breed-specific rescue (Mid-Atlantic English Springer Spaniel Rescue). I met with a wonderful older couple who were asking those same questions. They were not ready to give their dog up just yet, but wanted to find out about the process in the event they would no longer be able to care for him so that their kids wouldn't need to worry about it.

I'm not necessarily saying you should will your girls to a rescue right this second, but it might be worth talking with someone to find out what that process would look like if you did need to re-home them. The best case scenario would be if you had a friend or a few friends who would be willing to step up should the need arise. If your kids do not want the dogs and would see them as a burden, it would be best to consider other options IMO. It's really good that you're thinking about all of this.

I think all of us, no matter what age we are, should have a will with specific directions of what should happen to our pets. They are our babies.

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My backup plan should I die - my dogs will go to my family.

If by bizarre incident we all pass away, then I have friends (dog related) who I can entrust my dogs.

My thing is that for peace of mind - mine - I will do everything I can to ensure that my dogs will never end up in the hands of people who will not love them as much as I do.
Well I am alone with my girls. My Bess is 8 and has never been around children;. She loves kids. Mia is just a baby. She Would probably be ok with kids. But they have me 24 hours a day . I just do not have anyone yet that I would trust them with. I want to know that they are ok.
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I think I would be in the same position if I were not friends with a lot of dog people - people with the same values as me when it comes to our dogs.

I personally would never consider shelters or rescues an option at all. I'm over it mostly, but I had a bad interview with the main golden rescue here in MI and don't want them getting their hands on my dogs. Ever. I want to choose exactly what kind of home my dogs are adopted into.

Or at the very least, I would leave it up to people whose judgement and intelligence I trust to find an ideal home for my dogs.

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I think I would be in the same position if I were not friends with a lot of dog people - people with the same values as me when it comes to our dogs.

I personally would never consider shelters or rescues an option at all. I'm over it mostly, but I had a bad interview with the main golden rescue here in MI and don't want them getting their hands on my dogs. Ever. I want to choose exactly what kind of home my dogs are adopted into.

Or at the very least, I would leave it up to people whose judgement and intelligence I trust to find an ideal home for my dogs.
I just do not have anyone that I trust that much.
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Do you trust your vet?

Do you know other people with dogs who work with dogs for a living?

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Do you trust your vet?

Do you know other people with dogs who work with dogs for a living?
Not really.. . In my area I guess RAGOM. They are good loving people as I follow there web site. Still not what I would want for my girls. Just a hard one.
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If I knew I was not going to be here tomorrow I would be happy to give my beautiful girls to sweet girl. That is what I want for them. Total love.
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If you lived closer, I'd tell you to bring them to me.
It's in my will that Max goes to my best friend if something should happen to both me and my husband. Can you set up a trust so there would be money to take care of the girls?
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