Can't shake it - Golden Retrievers : Golden Retriever Dog Forums

GoldenRetrieverForum.com is the premier Golden Retriever Dog Forum on the internet. Registered Users do not see the above ads.
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 10:20 PM
Nazzers's Avatar
Nazzers
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 154
Thanks: 73
Thanked 102 Times in 50 Posts
Can't shake it

Sorry for the long message but I am needing some help.

When I was 15 I got a dog , it was a mix shitzu , spaniel, poodle. Anyway growing up with that dog was hell , it was a devil dog , bit me all the time, pooped and peed in the house till the day it died , right outside my bedroom door when I would go out with my friends. I hate to say it but I really did not like that dog at all. Well now I am 41 kids of my own and we have just got our girl Carly last Friday. It's been a crazy week , some health things and just adjusting to a new pup. When we picked her out she was the calmest one of the litter , very cuddly and just a good little pup. Today Carly was wild!! We were outside playing and she was trying to get into everything she shouldn't I finally just picked her up to bring her inside and she snarled growled and snapped at me. I was told if this happens to take them by the scruff and pin them until they become submissive well it wasn't happening. I let go of her and right away went back to what she shouldn't be doing so I picked her up again and again the same thing happened which I did the same thing. By this point I was having flashbacks about a dog I have had no contact with for eons and I became very nervous that this very cute puppy is going to be my same devil dog I once had. The rest of the day I have been on edge with her nervous when my kids pet her and nervous when I take her out for a pee. My husband and I have set down rules tonight and she is now being taught who the bosses are. Making her sit for her food , sit before entering the house after us, put her collar on for the first time. As much as I want to believe we can do this I just can't shake that scared 16 year old out of me. I delayed getting a dog for my kids for years my son is 14 and daughter 10 so I wanted to be sure I was ready and I thought I was , I still want to be but what can I do to feel that trust again. We are going to do obedience classes but she still needs some vaccines before we can do that so possibly another 7 weeks. Not sure I can wait that long. Any tips to help me get passed this thanks


Sent from my iPhone using Petguide.com Free App
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
  #2 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 10:27 PM
Vhuynh2's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 3,849
Thanks: 1,833
Thanked 3,308 Times in 2,061 Posts
Puppies will get into everything. That's just how they are for awhile. Molly used to pick up everything off the ground outside. I just recently realized that I have not been saying leave it and give as often as before. It will get better with age and training. As for picking her up, breeders usually get the pup used to being handled. Maybe your breeder didn't do that. I think she's young enough for this to be an easy fix. I don't have any first hand experience but others might.


Sent from my iPhone using Petguide.com Free App
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
  #3 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 10:29 PM
Zuca's mom's Avatar
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Portland, TX
Posts: 413
Thanks: 3,585
Thanked 355 Times in 234 Posts
Can't shake it

I'm sure there will be more experienced people replying but I just want to encourage you. Your little puppy is just being a puppy. We got ours this summer and this forum has helped tremendously. The most important thing is a tired puppy is a good puppy. They do really well on a schedule. Pinning her down will only make things worse as Goldens do best with positive reinforcement. There are lots of posts about training and such here. Take the time to read and most of all, take time to bond with your pup. It will happen. I hope you will be patient and reap the reward of a beautiful relationship. Goldens love like no other. Mine is 6 months old and she is much better. Still gets the bitey face and can get out of control but we just redirect, or worse case, time out. She's just wonderful.
__________________
Elizabeth
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Zuca's mom For This Useful Post:
Mac'sdad (11-19-2012)
  #4 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 10:30 PM
Advanced Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: canada
Posts: 1,178
Thanks: 763
Thanked 784 Times in 502 Posts
where are you in canada?
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
  #5 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 10:38 PM
Advanced Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Alberta
Posts: 1,720
Thanks: 408
Thanked 1,749 Times in 798 Posts
Take a deep breath! Carly is not the 'devil dog' of your past. In all likelihood, your scooping her up when she was distracted by 'other' things, surprised and frightened her and sent her into survival mode. She does not need to learn 'who is boss' she needs to learn what you want her to know because she doesn't know how to fit into the human world. How to sit, down, stay on command (for all family members), recall, enjoy handling, wait for her dinner, wait at the door for permission to go out, all these things can be taught with kindness, respect and positive reinforcement and it takes time, consistency and a ton of practice! And it can be a LOT of fun!
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
  #6 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 10:47 PM
ebenjamin85's Avatar
Mulligan & Samantha's Mom

 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Ohio
Posts: 1,266
Thanks: 305
Thanked 311 Times in 248 Posts
Don't worry! You're on the right track with teaching her sit. Obedience is a great way to build trust. I would stop pinning her down though.

Puppies and especially Goldens can be nippy. Goldens are mouthy by nature and there is def. a mouthy phase that you will have to get through. If she nips, redirect her to a bone or toy that she can chew. When she chews it praise her. If she will not chew it and continues to try to go after you, simply ignore her until she is calm.

You WILL get through it and more than likely with a fantastic dog. Try to be calm, even if it doesn't seem like it, your puppy is relying on and looking to you for guidance. Good luck, the puppy stage will pass (so be sure to take lots of pictures because you will miss it when it's gone, even if you don't realize that now).
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
  #7 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 11:04 PM
Nazzers's Avatar
Nazzers
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 154
Thanks: 73
Thanked 102 Times in 50 Posts
Thank you for the advice so far. As for handling the puppies ,they had a lot of hands on. We actually went to see her 2-3 times a week. I have decided to not try to be on her so much for stuff she's eating , I think I am more aware as she has had a bad week with diahrra and blood in her poop then out came a Sharp piece of plastic. So I guess I am over concerned about what she is digesting. I don't plan on giving up on her , I know she is going to be a good dog. It's more me that needs to be re wired , I have to get past the torment of that other dog. I think the training will really help me feel more confident as a dog owner. I try to not let her feel that nervous vibe from me and truly it wasn't here until today when she was snapping at me , let me clarify that also , she has been nippy all week and that I have no problem with , this was full out lips back bearing teeth and looked like she wanted to rip my face off :-/ I will do as advised and read as much as I can on here and hopefully it will help. I have gone from thinking we were going to lose her and feeling broken hearted to being fearful and felling broken hearted again thanks for your thoughts and advice oh and I am just outside London Ontario


Sent from my iPhone using Petguide.com Free App
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
  #8 (permalink)  
Old 11-16-2012, 11:08 PM
ebenjamin85's Avatar
Mulligan & Samantha's Mom

 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Ohio
Posts: 1,266
Thanks: 305
Thanked 311 Times in 248 Posts
If only more owners were as willing to seek help and as aware of their own flaws (and we ALL have them) as you, the world would be a better place for dogs and their humans alike! You're on the right track and I'm sure you'll have a great best friend!
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
  #9 (permalink)  
Old 11-17-2012, 03:52 PM
Nazzers's Avatar
Nazzers
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 154
Thanks: 73
Thanked 102 Times in 50 Posts
So signed up for puppy preschool today. I already feel better about getting her and myself on track. Also I am happy that the whole family will be a part of it she had been wild again this morning but getting better. I did the yelping thing when she would play bite and it worked instantly. I even gave her the first bath and she did well, cried through it and wanted to get close to me rather then being nasty. She also has been doing really well sitting for food and going outside. Today feels a bit better not 100 percent there but better.


Sent from my iPhone using Petguide.com Free App
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
  #10 (permalink)  
Old 11-17-2012, 05:45 PM
cubbysan's Avatar
Preeminent Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Lee's Summit, MO (formally Franklin, MA)
Posts: 11,408
Thanks: 3,478
Thanked 2,979 Times in 1,847 Posts
The dog I had growing up was puppy mill shih tzu, and he sounded exactly like your dog. I loved that dog like crazy, but he was nasty ( I got bit all the time!) and would pee on our beds etc.

My two goldens have been a piece of cake, 100 percent housebroken, and now that they aren't puppies, have not bitten at all.

Brady did bite my daughter once as a puppy with a bully stick. Never showed an ounce of aggression since. After he did that, we each would take turns feeding him his meals by hand, to show him that we were in control of him.

Sometimes they will aggressively bite if they are in pain. If he has been sick, maybe his stomach was tender etc.

I do have to warn you if you have kids, goldens can be little landsharks for the first year and are very busy puppies, but when they become adults, they are the best dogs.

I do
__________________
Marie, Brady, MacKenzie and Sailor
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -4. The time now is 10:24 AM.



Powered by vBulletin® Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Content Relevant URLs by vBSEO 3.5.2
Golden Retriever Forum .com
PetGuide.com
Basset.net DobermanTalk.com GoldenRetrieverForum.com OurBeagleWorld.com
BoxerForums.com DogForums.com GoPitbull.com PoodleForum.com
BulldogBreeds.com FishForums.com HavaneseForum.com SpoiledMaltese.com
CatForum.com GermanShepherds.com Labradoodle-dogs.net YorkieForum.com
Chihuahua-People.com RetrieverBreeds.com

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65