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Who trains in your household?
We have a two-person household, and we're trying to figure out the best training techniques and tricks, etc. The biggest roadblock we're running into is that my DH and I have two different training philosophies and at the moment I do 95% of the training at home, but when we go to class, my DH gets all fussy if he doesn't get to train Bear at class. I'm totally confused because what's the point of trying to train the puppy at class for an hour, if your not going to follow up on it at home?
I realize, we're experiencing a break-down in communications between me and my DH and we're working on fixing that. I guess, my question is, if we cannot agree on a cohesive training style, signals, words, etc... should one person be the only trainer?
An example, I taught Bear "off" meant "get off me, get off the couch, etc" but when he's on the couch, my DH will say "down" then get irritated when Bear lays down on the couch.
I feel like a failure, cause come on, we're adults, we should be able to get our $tuff in gear and move forward as a unit, but all we're doing is confusing the puppy when we try to train together. When I train by myself, Bear is an angel and attentive and we make great strides. But then my DH comes home and all the work goes out the window.
I'm trying to empathize with my DH, who gets annoyed and frustrated b/c the puppy "doesn't listen to him."
His biggest complaints are "he won't walk nicely" or "he won't get in the car" or "he won't fetch" and they all end with "like he does with you."
I told him he has to work with Bear more frequently and be presistant, cause it's not like the puppy was born thinking "hey, I'm going to obey that funny acting female," it took alot of time and patience on my end and I STILL think my pup is a little brat.
Last edited by Brave; 12-04-2012 at 06:48 PM.
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