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Old 01-09-2013, 01:49 PM
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Please don't think for a minute I mistreat my dog. He lives like a king! He sits on my lap and sleeps at the foot of my bed, all 81lbs of him. He is NOT a cowering frightened dog, anything but that. When a large dog jumps and humps constantly over a period of a few minutes, yes, I put him on the floor for ten seconds. I know its a phase he's going thru and it will pass. I'm not a first time dog owner.
Regarding it not being a dominance issue I disagree. In my post I spoke of a very large neutered male still humping years after the surgery, and of a spayed female humping a neutered male. Two different trainers have told me in the past it is not sexual.....its dominance.
Some trainers are more old school than others. Modern thought on the subject is that humping is neither sexual nor dominance. I had a poodle when I was a kid that humped a pillow all the time. She was one of the least dominate dogs I've ever had and she was fixed years before the behavior started. She did it when she got nervous.
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I don't really think the humping is always about dominance although sometimes it is. My dogs do it and I mostly ignore it when it's just in the realm of playing bitey face. But they don't attempt it on me or my DD, so I might have a different set of feelings about it if that were going on. I didn't think you were mistreating your dog... but I still don't believe that alpha-rolling him is the best solution to what you're dealing with. I'm not a professional trainer so this is JMHO.
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Tayla Update: I think I posted that before Christmas (4 days before) Tayla had major surgery because she ate a rock. She came through fine, but it changed a lot of our plans for my Christmas break. No tracking training . She is as spunky as ever and our backyard is covered in plastic chicken wire until we can find an easy way of removing all those little white rocks we have as decoration all over. Sigh...

On another note Tayla had her first 5 minutes of out of the crate alone time today. Rick and I come home every day for lunch on a staggered schedule. I arranged my time so that I left 5 minutes between when I left and Rick got home. This was her first test. I left her a Kong and said good-bye and left. I actually pulled down the street so I could make sure Rick got home in an allotted time and he pulled in exactly 5 minutes after I left. He said she didn’t even greet him at the door so her first test period was good. We will do 5-10 minutes this week and gradually increase it to the normal 20 minutes that separate our lunch hours. My goal is that she is left uncrated in the afternoon after he leaves until I get home. That is 3.5 hours. We will need to put Jesse in the bedroom on the bed and close the door as I don’t want Tayla getting rowdy and wanting to play and inadvertently hurting the old girl. Up until this point Tayla has been very untrustworthy, but we have to start someplace. If we are home we can leave her when we are ouside working in the yard, but I check in often. This is just the start of what I hope is some freedom for her.
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Good luck, Barb, with Tayla. I feel for you. We went through the build-up time out of Tucker's crate this past fall. We learned something very interesting - Tucker loves mischief, but only when we're around! We have had absolutely no trouble with him for hours at a stretch now when we leave to run errands or to do things with our kids. BUT - at home, in the evening, when we're all trying to relax in front of the TV or play the wii, that's when Tucker just loves to go crazy. He's such a goofball. Hopefully you'll discover that Tayla is the same way.

I haven't been on the forum much these past few months - Tucker is still our little work in progress, but the good times are FAR outnumbering the issues we have now. He's getting close to two years now, and it's definitely starting to show. Some of the grownup brain cells are starting to make their way to the surface. It's about time!

My human family is causing me far more stress and headache in recent months, between constant strep/croup infections being passed among the three little people, not to mention my issue of not knowing how to say "no" when it comes to being approached to volunteer for scouting, school boards, etc! Ugh!

Have a good day, everyone!
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one more thing on the dominance thing. My last dog was a very self assured french mastiff. One hundred and fifty pounds of muscle. He didn't growl or carry on when someone came to my door. He dared them to open it. When you were invited in he was your best friend. He tried to hump everyone but me. I was his superior in the pecking order. Except my youngest daughter. She was a target until the day he passed. You cannot have a dog that size think he can be boss. So I don't think at all it is a sign of being unsure. My Shamus was a sweet yet very tough guy. Just my opinion.
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Barb and Katie - Koda is the same way! When we are home, she does what she can to find something to get into. She will grab shoes and run or grab a shirt and run - anything she can do to get our attention but when we aren't home she is an angel. We shut up the bedroom doors and put most of her toys away (the ones she could destroy) but we probably dont need to. She just lays around. We have strategically placed toys in certain spots in the house so we would know if they had been moved and they hadn't. She is soooo good. She has had the whole house for at least 6 months now if not longer! It's great!

For all of you mom's out there - to humans and furry friends - if you had dogs when your kids were born how did you handle that? I am in constant stress thinking of how this is going to be on Koda when baby gets here in June. I want to believe things won't be dramatically different with her routine but then I feel like I might be kidding myself..right now she gets a morning walk and an evening walk and some playtime in between. Someone usually stops home around lunch and if its nice will take a walk or play downstairs with her (that won't end). But I never want her to feel like we dont want her around or that she isn't feeling like she is getting enough attention. I know there will be two of us and one baby and one dog so there is one of us to always give love to one of them but is it unrealistic to believe we can keep a somewhat normal schedule for Koda?

Just looking for a reality check if I need one...
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It's so wonderful to come to this thread and see how far our pups have come over the last year! If the new people who are just starting to see emerging teenage behavior read back at all our struggles they will have written documentation that there is hope!! - either that or they will run away with their eyes shut and their fingers in their ears screaming la-la-la at the sometimes harsh reality of it all!!

I am so very happy for you Barb that Tayla did well! baby steps
I still have not left Bryley alone in the house when we are both gone. He is frequently left in the house when just my husband is here with him and the husband is doing stuff outside. Bryley has been alone then for over 1/2 hour with not problem in that circumstance. That should give me some confidence but it doesn't. Bryley knows someone is home and most times he can even look out the window to see my husband. Someday....

What Katie wrote about the adult brain cells making their way to the surface it made me laugh and nod at the same time! Bryley has finally turned into the great dog that I knew he could be and I will love for ever and ever and ever!!
I think Katie's Tucker and my Bryley may be brothers from another mother! Your description of your evening together are spot on. All day Bryley can be pretty mellow but come evening- hold on to your hats! He has no interest in relaxing or napping when I want to watch Downton Abbey!!!! He stands and stares unflinchingly into my eyes willing me to move to get my coat and get a move on! It works. Every time.

I have no advise for you Michelle since I have not been in your situation but I just want to say how happy I am for you and your husband! I am sure Koda will do wonderfully because you are so devoted and concerned for her you will do everything you can to make Koda always feel like number 1!!

PS~ Monday is was 2 years since my boy Bailey left my side. I still have his picture and a snip of his fur (in a little bag) out and when I dust I hold the photo and sometimes 'pet' it and then I inhale the fur- which smells like dust, but whatever. Bailey was really a gentle guy and just so easy. I still miss him.
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Thanks Pam! And yes it is great to see how far these pups have come! I couldn't love Koda more - or I say that now but I am sure every day I will say I love her more!! She is such a joy to have around. There is so much more of us talking about how good she is or how cute she is or "come look at her" now than ever before. It used to be "come help", "she's crazy" but now we have pleasant conversations about her! We love her and wouldn't trade anything - it shows the time and dedication will pay off!!

I look at my friends who have a yellow lab - 8 months maybe now and have not done any training with her. I feel horrible. They just had a baby 3 weeks ago and it seems the dog is locked up more than it is out and about because they failed to train the dog and make the dog understand there is a time for fun and a time for calm. Poor pup.

Makes me proud though! Of all of us!!
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Michelle, I haven't had to juggle dog and baby, but I did juggle an older dog who had been solo for many years before Tucker's arrival. I think the best thing you can do is keep things as normal as possible and include Koda as much as possible in whatever is going on. She will figure out quickly enough that the baby is not supplanting her. Your biggest issue may be with family members who don't understand your desire to keep Koda feeling like part of the family. You should rent and watch "Lady and the Tramp". The plot line in there about the visiting aunt is pretty funny. And of course part of parent training is getting tuned back in to those Disney classics. LOL. My DD is 17 and I'm still watching Disney on a regular basis.
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I think our family knows where we stand with Koda. They already think we are crazy at times with how much we do for her and treat her like a human lol but they go along with it. They keep teasing me that things are going to change and koda isn't going to be the center of attention and blah blah blah so that is probably what got to me. I dont want her to feel left out but I get now that it is a choice for us in how we handle it. If we want to keep things normal for her then we keep it normal!!

I am sure there will be a little transition but at least it is summer time - lots of walks and outdoors time for Koda still!! And me home all the time for 3 months!!
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