Each person has to make their own decision but I'll tell you my story...several years ago my heart dog Abbey was diagnosed with Cancer. I automatically wanted to throw everything possible at this disease because I just knew we would beat it together her and I and would not accept any other thought from anyone. I put that girl thru weeks of chemo, so many regular trips to the vet and countless other procedures in her last month of life on the real reason was my heart just could not let her go and I could not imagine my life without her in it and didn't even want to consider it.

In the end I looked at her one day laying in front of the fireplace and suddenly started to cry as I realized just how I was allowing her quality of life and dignity to be compromised because I refused to let her go. I made the decision right then and there to have my vet come over and together her and I she crossed the bridge.

I tell you this only because I live with the guilt of allowing her last few weeks of life to not be what I wanted them to be only because I was in to much pain to do the right thing two weeks before I did and it is not easy to live with.

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I appreciate what u said. I really do. I even had the vet come to the house somewhere hoping that he would help me make that decision, but it seemed to be hard for him too which was not helpful. He spent hours giving me tips on how to make her quality of life better and giving me vitamins for her. Even though I try to say to my husband, look honey I think this isn't fair. Her blood sugar plummets or skyrockets, she falls, she pees in her sleep, she can't see.. He says, look honey her sugar level is under control, she seems to be steadier on her feet, she didn't pee in her sleep, she can see me, she's not in pain, she is eating, she played with her stuffed animal albeit for 30 seconds, she came for a belly rub. She's not ready to go and he's not ready to let her go. I for one am not strong enuf to make the decision for everyone. I am not positive that this is the time yet. I am just not sure and it is tearing my heart right out of my chest. I cry every day and pray that I will either get the strength somewhere or that she will just close her eyes and pass naturally.


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I am so very sorry for what you are going through with your Husband.
Praying for Ella and you.

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SMOOCH at the Bridge.
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Hugs and prayers for sweet Ella and her people.

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"He took my heart and ran with it, and I hope he's running still, fast and strong, a piece of my heart bound up with his forever" - Patricia McConnell

Charlie could watch birds for hours and I could watch Charlie for hours too http://www.goldenretrieverforum.com/...n-morning.html

I know this is such a terribly sad time. Keeping your family and sweet Ella in our thoughts and prayers.

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It is one of the hardest decisions we are ever called upon to make. Maybe THE hardest. I really do believe that they tell us when, if they can't go themselves. My childhood dog did. Really. He had cancer - had had surgery and was given 3-4 months. Nine months later, he was starting to ail again. And one day, I came home home, and suddenly, that day, I knew. I don't know what it was - I would not be able to put it into words. But you have a closeness, a bond. As long as you are wondering, it's likely not time. She'll tell you. And for the first time around it, you will feel a new clarity about the decision.

Until then - I wish and send you so much comfort and support. It's such a hard time.

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"Joy and loyalty wrapped in sunshine."
The Laughing Dog Press

Sept. 21, 2000 ~ Feb. 5, 2013
My sweet, joyful, beloved heart.

Jude I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through this. We went through it a year ago and it's just the hardest time. Enjoy every day with your sweet Ella

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This is such a very hard place. When we made the decision to set my Charlie free, our vet argued with me a bit. It was, after all, right before a holiday weekend and he thought we could wait until the next week. I was very firm, insisting that if he didn't want to come to the house and help, I would have to find someone else. Then he accepted that I knew what had to happen and he worked things out to be with us. It can't have been easy for him, having cared for my boy for most of 8 years. But when he saw Charlie that last time, he realized that we were doing the right thing. He is such a gentle man, and I am glad that he was with us at the end for Charlie.

As others have said, you will know with great clarity when the time has come. At that point, love will give you strength and courage to fight as hard to set Ella free as you have fought to keep her with you.

Holding Ella and you in my thoughts and prayers,
Lucy

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So sorry you are going through this. It really is the worst decision in the world to have to make just horrible, and we went through it 11 months ago so know exactly how you must be feeling.

The only advice I can say is that you will know in your heart when it's time. When our golden Daisy was poorly she fought so very hard. Every couple of days we went back to the vets she wanted to prove that she was fighting and wanted to carry on. In the very last days though she lay at home and was giving up. We knew that the time would be very soon but didn't know how we'd know when. In the end Daisy let us know, just by the look in her eyes that she was tired and had enough and we made the heartbreaking decision to send her to the bridge. It's very strange, but somehow you just find the strength to get through because you know that what you're doing will be the best decision for your girl.

All of us that have lost understand your pain and what you must all be going through. I totally believe that Ella will decide for you when it's time, and in your heart you'll just know. Take care, sending our thoughts and prayers.

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Thinking of you, sending love and prayers for sweet Ella. Hope you have good days only.

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"He took my heart and ran with it, and I hope he's running still, fast and strong, a piece of my heart bound up with his forever" - Patricia McConnell

Charlie could watch birds for hours and I could watch Charlie for hours too http://www.goldenretrieverforum.com/...n-morning.html