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Things Aren't The Same Anymore

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#1 · (Edited)
Tomorrow marks eight months since Barnaby went to the Rainbow Bridge. It's changed me in many ways but the reality has set in recently that things will never be the same again.

Life without him is different, routines are no longer the same and that "dogless" feeling is tough to deal with but having Barnaby in my life for over fifteen years has made me realise just how quickly time goes by.

DH and I were talking about all the things and world events that have happened over this period, Barnaby is now part of our history but will shape the future for me too. I struggle with the thought of never seeing him again but am comforted by the thought of the ultimate reunion when the time comes.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that we carry on with everyday life but underneath there is an empty space, I am eternally grateful for all the years I had with Barnaby but goodness do I miss him.. ..


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#5 ·
Barnaby was beautiful, and I empathize with that uneasy feeling things are not right or the same. I lost my Finn this year too, and I can't seem to adjust.
 
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:Sending hugs, Barnaby looked like a great companion. Hope you have something planned to help you through the day.
I can empathise. We lost Ranger 9 months ago after 14 yrs together. Our son was 4 when we got him so he was part of virtually his whole childhood. It just feels so wrong that he isn't here. I still have moments when I turn expecting to see him in his usual space beside me.
I hope the happy memories soon outweigh the sad and bring smiles to your faces and your hearts once again.
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#8 ·
I am so sorry for your loss of Barnaby. It is difficult to lose any of our dogs but when we lose a dog as near to our hearts as Barnaby was to yours the loss is overwheming. I don't know that we ever get over it completely. It seems, at least for me, that there is a hole in my heart that nothing will fill. I am sorry for your sad anniversary. Please do something kind for yourself tomorrow because Barnaby would not want you to be sad.
 
#9 ·
Sorry you are hurting so bad. I lost my buddy 15 months ago and you are right things will never be the same. I think of him often and will always miss him. Wish I had better words of comfort but I don't. It just hurts sometimes. Hang in there and do something for yourself like everyone is saying.


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#10 ·
Bye he sure was handsome!


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Barnaby had such a great and unique personality. He was definitely one of a kind. I'm so sorry for your pain. I feel a similar pain for my Jake who has been gone for thirteen years, yet the pain of his loss is still with me. Time will help a bit. There is a saying, "Weep not because I am no more, but live in thankfulness that I was." I am thankful I had Jake for almost fourteen years, and I am so thankful I got to meet your wonderful Barnaby. Please take care of yourself.
 
#13 ·
I am so sorry, I understand so well the way you feel. Sweet Barnaby is with my Buddy, they will be waiting for us. Until then we have our angels watching over us.
Charlie and me are sending you many, many hugs.

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#14 ·
I can't believe it has been 8 months already. :crying:

I completely understand what you mean by "nothing is the same anymore". I lost my heart and soul girl, Nikki, nearly 19 years ago and there is still a "Nikki-sized hole" in my life that cannot be filled, just as there is a "Barnaby-sized hole" in yours.

Barnaby is one special boy. It takes a lot of time to get used to the "new normal" after the loss of one so dear.

Sending hugs.
 
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Eight months doesn't seem possible. I know in many ways it seems like it was only yesterday because the loss you're feeling is still so very raw, yet it so many ways it feels like a lifetime ago.

Dogs come into our lives and change us forever, they teach us about love, patience, how to laugh, we form a bond with them like no other. They are very special gifts.

Although he's no longer on this earth, he's still with you and will forever be a part of you because he will always have your heart. Cherish the memories and celebrate the special times you shared, it will help keep him close to you.

Instead of focusing on him no longer with you physically, celebrate his life and be grateful he was a part of it.
 
#17 ·
Barbaby

My heart goes out to you and Barnaby will be in your heart forever. I, too, am so grateful for the time I've had with my beloved dogs that has crossed to the Rainbow Bridge.
 
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So sorry...I lost my Gus only about 6 weeks ago. Four weeks ago a new boy sort of fell into my life, but Gus had seen me through so many difficult times that I feel like I will miss him forever...I'm trying to convert all my love for Gus into love for the new boy, and it works sometimes, but it's hard still. So far not a single day has gone by that I haven't shed tears for my Gus.
 
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Thank you all so very much for your kind words and support, I really don't know how I would cope without all x
 
#23 ·
BTW (sorry). This never posted yesterday. Spell check filled in. I did not mean bye - so I thought of you and Barnaby today and thought a little harder for words of comfort. I am by nature a very sensitive person and while some can shield themselves from the sorrow of the world, I have to work at letting go. I have developed a mindset that in my deepest sorrows I must become grateful. Grateful for the mental capacity to love. Love most always is accompanied by some sort of pain, so we must accepted it, for we would never want to lose the capacity to love.

That is a psychopath and there are many of them out there -


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#25 ·
That is so true, you cant put that into a timeframe. And it is ok.
I've cried with people alike, complete strangers, at some occasions on "weird" places like coffee break at conference, car dealership, on the plain ...when we found out that we are golden lovers and shared our stories about our lost goldens.
And I do believe, as you, it hurts so hard because we loved them so much.
 
#28 ·
Thank you so much for your kind words it means a lot especially when you are going through such a lot with your beautiful Dory, I am sending prayers and positive thoughts across to you and your precious girl x
 
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