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Old 12-21-2012, 07:57 PM
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Hi,

I know exactly what you are going through. The Guilt or whatever these feelings are thatyou have when you get another Golden after losing one. I lost my Golden on August 6, 2012 this year, he was just 8 years old, but he was what I would call my Soul Mate for a dog. We had such a connection, one that I never thought possible to have again. On August 25th, we picked up our new puppy, as much as I was excited, I felt like I didn't have a real connection with him, be it the guilt I still felt that I was doing something wrong, or even the thought that my Golden who had passed would be looking down at me and thinking....how can you love him?
I want to tell you, that each of these precious Angels have something unique and special to offer us. My new Golden who is now 5 months, is amazing and special in such a way that HE helped break the wall down that I had created and has allowed me to love him soo sooo much!
He truely is unique and special.....he is so special that I am going to certify him as a Therapy dog.

It's kind of funny how guilty we feel, and how we think that we should not love another like the ones we have lost, but in reality, they need us as much as we need them. Enjoy your new Angel, and look for how he can help you through your grief while Loving him.

I am proud of you for deciding to get another.
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Old 12-22-2012, 03:11 AM
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Canajo, I had to post you as I read this, I know deep in my heart I feel the same. I lost both my Goldens within two days of each other 9 months ago, and as many on this forum will acknowledge, I lost myself also. Unexpectedly Just 2 months ago, i found myself rehoming a 5 month old male pup called Kai. It has been a difficult time as my boys were 14 years when I lost them and therefore I'd forgot how trying a pup can be, and I too, have found myself crying lots more again. I'm not sure how we will cope with these feelings, as I've found myself wishing my new pup was my old boys, how bad do I feel about this is hard for me to admit, I just miss them so very much. So don't feel alone as you see you are far from that. Have a happy Christmas I'm sure our goodies will all be with us in spirit.
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Canajo, I had to post you as I read this, I know deep in my heart I feel the same. I lost both my Goldens within two days of each other 9 months ago, and as many on this forum will acknowledge, I lost myself also. Unexpectedly Just 2 months ago, i found myself rehoming a 5 month old male pup called Kai. It has been a difficult time as my boys were 14 years when I lost them and therefore I'd forgot how trying a pup can be, and I too, have found myself crying lots more again. I'm not sure how we will cope with these feelings, as I've found myself wishing my new pup was my old boys, how bad do I feel about this is hard for me to admit, I just miss them so very much. So don't feel alone as you see you are far from that. Have a happy Christmas I'm sure our goldies will all be with us in spirit.
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Oh, how I feel your pain! Last year at this time we had just gotten our sweet Tucker's diagnosis of lymphoma and then we lost him in February. I struggled so much with the decision to get a new pup, but we did. I love him to pieces and don't regret it at all!
Yesterday, however, as I got the Christmas stockings out and ready to hang I had a long bout of sadness and tears remembering my boy "Tuck". Before I knew it a cold wet nose was pushing his way in to get a sniff and give kisses. My dear little Darby! As we all know, we never forget our bridge dogs and they have a special way of popping into our thoughts now and again, but our new furry friends sure do ease the pain.
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Thanks for all of your support and encouraging words!

Dear all- I have not been on the boards the last few days as I have been busy with the new puppy. Finally, he is taking nap and I have time to check my posting and read your kind words and support. I picked up my Golden/Spaniel mix puppy up yesterday from the rescue transport truck and I have been feeling better since I got him. At least I am not crying most of the time like I was when wrote my original message. I have cried a few tears thinking of my dog Dawson and how blessed I am that this little guy entered my life. We are just getting to know each other and the time he requires of me has been a needed diversion. My new pup, Toby (aka Tobymac after the Christian rock singer) is so totally the opposite of my heart dog Dawson that I think it is a good thing. I am sure he will worm his way into my heart but in a different way. I still miss Dawson and always will, I think. Thanks again for all of your support and it was nice to see that I was not alone in feeling this grief. God Bless everyone.

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P.S.-I will be posting some pics of Toby and his story under the puppy thread when I can catch my breath. He has quite the story to him and there is a video of his actual rescue that is totally amazing.
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I can definitely relate, but am so glad to read your recent post. We had to put our dog down in July, and I started contacting breeders in August. I cried throughout all of July and August, and then got to a place where I found it too painful to even talk about him. I have always second guessed by decision to get another dog...I can't say Monte would be thrilled, he had what I called "only child syndrome" and was a very jealous dog. The loss of him has been too painful, so I've been avoiding. I've never looked at his ashes, and I still have pictures and videos of him on my phone that I cannot bare to look at. It's not the healthiest way to cope, but I'm afraid if I let myself feel for too long I will get stuck in a place I cannot be in right now. The holidays are particularly difficult...my husband and I feel very alone, especially because since our wedding we have become estranged from my husbands family, and we had to put our dog down 2 weeks later...it was a lot of loss all at once.

I worry how I will feel when I pick up our dog. Will we ever love him as much as we loved Monte? Will I regret it, since of course, he will not be Monte? Will I be able to accept him for him, and for the things that make him different than Monte? It's nice to hear that you are feeling better now that your dog is there, it gives me hope.

I have been able to be very excited, and I stare at my email endlessly waiting for pictures. I want him home already, but I'm nervous. I really want to feel that love again, and have a dog to hang out with. I am needing to take care of something, and have it take care of me too. Without this anticipation and excitement of getting a new dog, I think this holiday season would have been unbearable. Even though it's been a year of ups and downs, I am particularly grateful that we have something to look forward to in the new year, when we get to bring home the new member of our family.
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I look forward to seeing photos of him and his story. All dogs are different yet each one is special in their own way. I'm happy you have opened your heart and home to him.
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Update on my new puppy and the lessening of my tears!

HI all,

I have time for an update now after having my new puppy, Toby, for the last 10 days. I really did not think I could open my heart so quickly to a new dog but I have! I do not cry as much now when I look at this cute little guy whose antics invariably make me smile again. He is a really sweet dog and I have posted about him under the puppy page. The link is below.

http://www.goldenretrieverforum.com/...ml#post1873952 (Introducing my new Golden mix puppy Toby and his amazing rescue story!)

Each one of us is different but I personally can say my worries about not being able to bond to this puppy were unfounded. As I mentioned before, I felt my Bridge dog, Dawson, leading me through the whole adoption process. I am so glad that I went ahead and brought this amazing puppy home with me. I still think of Dawson often and he will always be a part of my life. Thanks again for your support and kind words during these past few months!

Nancye

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http://www.goldenretrieverforum.com/...oy-dawson.html (My boy Dawson)
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I am so very happy for you and your new baby and I know that Dawson is happy for you, too!
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HI all,

Each one of us is different but I personally can say my worries about not being able to bond to this puppy were unfounded. As I mentioned before, I felt my Bridge dog, Dawson, leading me through the whole adoption process. I am so glad that I went ahead and brought this amazing puppy home with me. I still think of Dawson often and he will always be a part of my life. Thanks again for your support and kind words during these past few months!

Nancye

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http://www.goldenretrieverforum.com/...oy-dawson.html (My boy Dawson)

Canajo;
I'm just catching this thread. I think when our Bridge dogs see us grieve for them so long, they want us to be happy again and help lead us into circumstances that opens our hearts once again. It sounds like your Dawson wanted you to be happy again and brought this puppy to you. Enjoy every moment with your new companion and cherish all the good memories you had with your Dawson.
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