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post #21 of 24 (permalink) Old 11-11-2012, 07:55 AM
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Originally Posted by doug View Post
being human is not a physical battle it is a mental one.

I know because i also suffer from this but i must force myself to remember that there are so many things that happen on earth that we cannot explain. Our feeble human minds cannot comprehend how we even came to be.

There must be more out there that what we can see. That is why so many people believe have faith in a better place far more intelligent and wonderful than what we see here on earth. That is why there are so many organised religions out there with millions of followers.

Why have you decided that allie is in a bad place?
Doesn't it make more sense that she was sent here for a short time to give you the gift of unconditional love and now she deserves to go back to heaven and rest and enjoy some reward time? Just because she is gone from your sight does not mean that she is gone altogether.

It is only human nature to think the worst. It is an advanced soul (which we are all striving to be) that can stand the test and hold their head up high and have faith in heaven and beyond.

Allie would want you to have faith and focus on the positive relationship that you had together instead of the heart breaking inevitable loss that we all sign up for when we bring a new soul into our lives. She wants you to keep up the fight.

decide and have faith that she is being looked after and being healed for by those people and pets that have gone before her. Know that earth is the testing ground of faith and that heaven is our real home where we feel the most loved happy and free. Allie deserves this even if it means being away from your sight. Be happy for her.

There will be times when you will feel weak use this energy to help others. Donate some clothes, continue your fantastic work on the forums or help out at the local dog shelter.

You have every right to miss her but when you do do it with pride for the beautiful eternal relationship that you have together. You have sent many waves of love and support to others may you feel the love and waves of support that is being sent to you tenfold!

Good luck with your healing!!! You can do it

"turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you." - by proverb, maori.

i love what you said, all of it.

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I am so sorry for the pain and loss you are feeling. I've been there too many times, I know what you're going through. It can be a constant struggle until you are able to look at what Allie Bean brought to your life. The love, the joy, the many wonderful memories. She will always be with you in your heart.

Your girls are also grieving for Allie Bean, they need you to be there for them. Let them help you while you help them.
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Originally Posted by goldensrbest View Post
The ones you have will keep you going,they don't know how much you miss the one you lost, they just need you, your love, taking care of them, you will get through this with them.
Ssacres: I completely agree with what Goldensrbest said.
Your dogs will help you get through this-let them!!

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All I can say is, I so understand where you are and what you are feeling. That feeling of utter loss and grief and emptiness. Allow yourself to weep and grieve. It may not ever feel okay - you may not ever understand why. I do hope your new pups can help you to heal. They will bring you great joy - but I know you will always carry your dear Allie in your heart. And that's okay. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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