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Can't get my dh on board with positive training
(For background, see my earlier thread on 11 week old puppy with aggression/resource guarding)
So, I think we are making improvements, Apollo (now almost 13 weeks) can "drop it" and "leave it" fairly consistently. He can have the most desirable thing ever and if I say to drop it and head to the fridge, he leaves the item behind and sits behind me waiting for a bite of meat. My 18yo son can do the same thing, only he usually brings a treat over and trades w/ no issues. (Silly dog hardly needs to be fed anymore, he gets so many treats).
However, at least once a day, my husband will find himself alone with the dog (usually in the morning when we are all scrambling to get out the door). This is prime time for the hallway gate to be left open and he will get down into a bedroom and find a sock or kleenex or whatever. And every day, my husband gets bit (not badly, but enough that he is really angry at Apollo). He said today "I tried to trade him, like the trainer said." I asked what he tried to trade with and he said a rope bone (which is still brand new bc Apollo hates it) and his antler (which Apollo chews on all the time). I told him he needed a higher value trade. He said, "I am not rewarding him for getting a kleenex." He eventually just pried the kleenex out of this mouth and yelled at the puppy.
He wants Apollo to obey w/o need for a treat. He thinks the positive training is stupid and thinks we need to show him who's boss. (He also thinks that dog training has gone the way of the newer, non-punitive parenting techniques that are now popular and that this is the downfall of society as we know it (unfortunately, we know a lot of spoiled kids who are not doing well for lack of good parenting). So I guess he's trying to fix it all by defying positive puppy training.
Should we all keep doing the positive stuff? I can't tell if it's working or if we are just avoiding power struggles. I still don't let 10yo do anything with Apollo except drop treats to him when he's behaving b/c I don't trust him not to growl and snap.
Is DH ruining all of our efforts? I guess I need to work on better puppy proofing to try and minimize things happening while dh is around, but other than that I'm not sure what to try. Any advice/encouragement welcome!
ETA: He is not aggressive about his food at all, just things he finds that he isn't supposed to have and an occasional bone