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I don't know. I just think of my own experience, many years ago. At about 6 months old, my puppy became so destructive and unmanageable that it was almost unbearable. One day I came home to find that he had destroyed the wood on my dining table, coffee table, bed and deck. It was the "last straw" for me. It wasn't a problem with exercise. He was walked two miles per day, swam in the pool and the Caribbean, and fetched a tennis ball to exhaustion. He was just going through something.
I started talking to people about getting rid of him, returning him to the breeder. I was "test marketing" the idea to see if I could be okay with it. Well, the breeder was thousands of miles away, and not easy to get to (I lived in a remote place at the time, in the tropics, and it was summer when animals could not fly), so I could not make that instant decision.
Fastforward a couple months: the super destruction was never repeated (after I invested in a 55 gal. drum of bitter apple). He started to calm down from the worst of it. I never did return him. And I loved him dearly, I was just at my wit's end with him and didn't know what to do. I didn't want to return him, but I didn't have any other solution. I kept him.
Twelve years later, I was sobbing uncontrollably as I held him while the vet euthanized him, because I absolutely could not bear the loss of my closest companion and heart dog. I had traveled with him, shown him to his championship, swam in the ocean with him, gone through break-ups with him, and lived my every day with him for over a decade. He had been the one constant in my life, and I was his. I'm tearing up even as I remember him, now.
Maybe this lady is just going through the same kind of temporary thing I did. Maybe they can get through it, and this puppy will be her heart dog, becoming an important "person" in her life that she treasures deeply. Maybe she's just test driving the notion of giving the puppy back, and doesn't really want to, just doesn't know what else to do. Maybe she just needs some encouragement to get throught the rough patch. It would have been the biggest mistake ever for me to give my puppy back. But I was ready to, I thought.
Just another experience to consider.