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Winston is doing really well with the potty training thing and hasn't had an accident while I'm around for over a month. Operative phrase - while I'm around. He still has a few accidents here and there and they are ALL on my boyfriend's watch! Its never because he has been left home alone too long, I've never gotten back and he has gone in his crate or anything. It is only when they are together. My boyfriend claims he is doing everything right - taking him out every hour or after he eats/drinks a lot/plays really hard. But I have never even seen him come close to having an accident inside in over a month! How is it possible that he only has accidents when my boyfriend is with him if my boyfriend is doing the exact same schedule that I do??? Winston even whines when he has to go out now, I just have no clue how he could miss the signs!! So frustrating!!
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I feel your pain. Both of my dogs ring the bells to go out but DH says he 'doesn't hear them'. Poor Ky has taken to sitting in front of DH and staring at him if I'm not here and she wants out.
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Hate to tell you this Val, but I think it's in the Male genes, meaning your BF not Winston. I had similiar experiences with my DH when he was watching my son when he was little, I so understand your frustration.
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understand for sure--except around our house it's the females that may miss the signals although now Lucy will just get louder until heard!!
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I've had the same issue with my boyfriend. Just the other night I was taking a shower and BF had Caira laying on the bed next to him. He was on the iPad just browsing around. I got out of the shower anf walked in, Caira was chewing on my slipper. SERIOUSLY? He was less than two feet from her! Admittedly I was pretty peeved about that one.
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Have you considered a bell on the door? Might help get BFs attention if you teach Winston to ring it. I have a busy, noisy household and it really helps a lot.

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Valerie your boyfriend is most likely doing something different. Maybe he is playing with Winston a little rougher or a little longer. (causing Winston to need to go sooner.) If you take Winston out every hour for now adjust your boyfriends schedule down to every 30 minutes. See if that works. Like Ashley said sometimes the other partner doesn't have as close an eye on the pup as they should. They don't even realize it. So, it could be your boyfriend becomes distracted and misses some of the signs Winston is giving him.

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poor you! and yes i agree with Carolinas Mom, it has to be a male gene thing. but it sure can be frustrating.

my dad use to puppysit chloe for me when she was a little tyke during the day while i was at work. i REALLY appreciated him doing this for me BUUUT it was extremely frustrating for me to come home and see that there had been accidents. My dad said that he had taken her out to go and the pee stains must have been on my watch. really dad? i know those stains werent there when i left! lol oh men...

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Male focus sometimes means that when they are watching tv or on the computer, the rest of the world goes away. Or he may hear the whine, but think, "Oh, just a few minutes and I'll attend to it." Instead 20 minutes passes.

At night Ben wants to go for his evening walk as soon as I turn off the tv. It can sometimes take a half hour to get my husband on his feet. "Just a minute" he says. Right.
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