Take a deep breath, you are not alone.
Enroll in a basic puppy obedience class. If you are already enrolled, even better. Go to class every week for the next year or two. (Im not kidding!!
Feed half of her meal by hand, work on sit, down, stay, leave it, come, tricks, etc. She will work when hungry and you'll build a bond. She also needs to recognize that when you speak, it means something, not just "blah blah blah." Since your home is a busy one with kids, she may have learned to tune you out. Just like teenagers!
An obedience class will be great to work in as it provides a distracting environment. I always withhold their breakfast if class in the AM or dinner if class in the PM and come armed with high value treats like cheese, hot dogs, liver, etc.
Try letting her drag around a leash. When she jumps, use the leash to pull her off. Consider tethering the leash to you so she has no choice but to follow you and you can work her commands a million times a day. Get a little training pouch to hold treats so you ALWAYS have them on you. Catch her being good with feet on the floor and reward her.
With the other half of her meal that you haven't trained with, get a food dispensing toy. We have several such as the Bob A Lot, Tug a Jug, Wobbler, etc.
Kongs are your friend!! Do you have one? You need two or three! Fill with peanut butter, yogurt, mashed banana, etc. Place in the freezer for added difficulty. Give them each evening before bed to create a calming wind-down routine.
Good luck and remember- it will be over soon. Be consistent!! Sent from my iPhone using Petguide.com Free App