who you thought were your friends. I let two very good friends know about my moms cancer days ago and havent heard from then since. 1st of all, its not cantagious and 2nd i need a friend to just listen to me as my heart breaks..

That's a shame and I'm sure they don't mean anything by it. Sometimes our problems happen when others are booged down in their own lives. Give them some time, ask to meet for lunch, let them know you need support. Many times people want to help, they just don't know what to do or what to say. Especially when they know what you've been through and how hard this is for you. Prayers for you and your mom and many healing wishes being sent to you all.

This must be very scary for you. I am sorry your friends have not been there for you. Cancer scares many people away. They just aren't sure how to support someone dealing with it. I am here if you need an ear. I have some experience in dealing with it. My best friend was diagnosed with breast cancer two years ago. I have been there for her during the surgeries, chemo, radiation, and the health issues that have arisen from these treatments and how it has effected her financially. I know how to listen and I know how important it is to talk to someone about your feelings. I hope your mom is going to be ok. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

Terra

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First of all, I'm so sorry about your Mom's cancer. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Second, try not to let your friends' silence bother you. They may be trying to "give you space" or they may just not know what you need. Sometimes people who haven't been through something like that just don't know what to do or say. So they stay silent. If they're real friends, don't hesitate to let them know what you need. They might not be able to guess. Ask them to meet you for coffee and tell them you need a shoulder to lean on. If they're still missing in action after that... then that's a different story.

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Thank You so much. She texted me back, "im at a party, talk to you tomm"

Thanks Everyone, dreams of my mom, and NO her CANCER isnt contagious

I agree with what everybody else said. I am usually one of those people that just try to stay out of people's space when they have something going on. I tend to not know what to do or feel maybe the person is just too busy at this time, that I would just be in the way.

Reach out and ask for help!

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I'm sorry you aren't finding the support you need. It's hard not knowing what to say or do as a friend and not wanting to intrude. Please just tell your friends that you need someone to talk to and a shoulder to lean on.

I'll keep you and your Mom in my thoughts and prayers. Huge big hugs coming your way.

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I'm so sorry about your mom's cancer.

But I do think that sometimes people don't know what to do or say to help. I definitely think you should talk to them and let them know that it would help if you could talk to them about it.

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*Misty (MittaBear)* 1/24/94 - 2/15/07

I'm sorry to hear of your friends' silence. Perhaps they just don't know what to say? I know that my MIL's best friend has breast cancer and is undergoing chemo/radiation. We saw her last week and I just didn't know what to say. I didn't want to bring up her cancer and I didn't want to draw attention to the fact that she's losing her hair. I wanted to treat her like nothing was happening, because the cancer doesn't define her or her life.