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Standing up to family
I don't usually get into personal issues, but I need to vent.
So for the past year and a half I have been providing child care for my aunts twins and my sisters son. This is my main income. My aunt was struggling and her kids were kicked out of daycare because she wouldn't pay. She knows I love kids so asked me if I could keep them and how much I would charge. I asked much less than her day care charged, but I was ok with that because it allowed me to stay home with Lily, and I also didn't want my aunt getting her 80 year old parents (my grand parents) to watch the kids like she had been since they were kicked out of daycare.
A few months ago she asked me if she could just not bring the kids on some days to save more money. She used to pay me anyway on the days they didn't come, just like she would a daycare. I said that was fine, I didn't feel right getting paid on days I didn't watch the kids. Well, she took complete advantage of that and just wouldn't bring them several days a week. Wouldn't even give me the courtesy of a call to let me know she wasn't bringing them. I put up with this for 3 months. She would cut me back sometimes $90 a week. And she never paid me on time anyway or would cut me short and ask me if she could just pay me the rest the following week. Would also pick the kids up at 7 although she got off of work at 5:30. I finally stood up to her tonight and told her I needed to rely on a certain amount of money or I couldn't watch the kids anymore. She texted me and just said "ok! Just give me a week and i'll find a daycare."
I am so hurt by this. This women is the WORST mother I've ever seen. She hardly ever brings her kids food so I have to pay for their food most of the time. She doesn't bring shoes for them to play outside, and half the time just brings them in their pjs. I have done so much for these kids, and love them like they're my own. She doesn't give them the time of day. It hurts that I get treated like this, but it hurts more to know that these kids will be taken from me, the only real mother figure they know, simply because she knows she can't take advantage of me anymore.
I would have loved to keep them despite the way she treats me, but I simply can't afford to take care of my own responsibilities the way she's cut me back. I'm going to look for another job this weekend. Please send me some good thoughts! I don't know what to do.