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post #11 of 39 (permalink) Old 01-04-2013, 06:28 PM Thread Starter
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I do understand that, but her telling me via text message last Sunday (while I'm out of the area with my family no less) "my water broke, you have to come get Brandy, I have nobody else" and then radio silence all week? At the very least a text in the middle of the week to say "hey, I've had the baby but could you keep Brandy for a couple more weeks" would have been nice.

One part of me really does see what you're saying, the other part of me says that she knew five months ago she was having a baby and would need to plan for this pup and didn't and now has dumped this dog on me. I'm feeding this dog from my dog's food and supplies because she didn't have any and she knows from leaving her dog with mine in the past that my dogs didn't have a great reaction to hers.

It goes back to my initial post though - I tried to warn her when she decided to adopt Brandy that this would happen and now we're in this situation and it's frustrating. I can't have a third dog and honestly I half expect her to ask me to keep Brandy.

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Wow! I'm so sorry for this whole situation.

I understand that she's got a lot on her plate at the moment, but I agree - she should have thought about that before getting the dog. Or she should have re-homed the dog.

My biggest pet peeve is people who stick their head in the sand and assume everyone else will fix the problems.

I agree that at the very least, she should have kept LilBitBit apprised of the current situation. (I.E. the baby is here. I'm heading home. Can you keep her a few more days?). This makes me wonder if she expects her pup to come back magically transformed.


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And today she asked me if I could just keep the dog. After all, Brandy is too wild and she has a baby now, of course I understand right?

So now I'm looking for a home for this dog.

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seems to be the best thing for Brandy...you are doing the right thing! Hope you find him the right home..

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Oh, my goodness! I was going to suggest, as another person did, discreetly speaking with the original rescue who had Brandy. I'd have mentioned the fact that Housing doesn't allow dogs, first and foremost! If they found out, she would either be evicted (very likely, Housing is strict!) or she would have little time to get rid of the dog! If you mentioned that to the original rescue, in sure they'd be more than willing to step in and rehome the pup. But it sounds like she has chosen to kinda dump Brandy off on you. Good luck!! I'll say a prayer for Brandy to ugly. Everything happens for a reason, remember that.
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I'll say a prayer for Brandy to ugly. Everything happens for a reason, remember that.
OMG!!!! Another AutoCorrect fail!! Lol!! I meant to write "I'll say a prayer TONIGHT" but my phone thought otherwise! My apologies!!
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LOL, I was wondering who ugly was (or what - I had guessed it might be one of the many acronyms I don't know yet!).

I don't want to get her evicted, but I also don't want to get evicted! My housing only allows two dogs. Right now if someone were to come and call me on it I could say "I'm just dogsitting for a friend", but I can't keep her longterm.

I've put her name out there to friends of mine to adopt, and am waiting on answers; if I don't hear back from them by middle of next week then I will be contacting the Humane Society to do a surrender.

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And today she asked me if I could just keep the dog. After all, Brandy is too wild and she has a baby now, of course I understand right?

So now I'm looking for a home for this dog.
I was trying to be compassionate (when I posted earlier) saying she has her hands full adjusting to the new baby and has no emotional energy to think of anything else......and so she was probably just hoping you would keep the dog a while. But while I can understand her situation, it doesn't excuse her lack of forethought.

Unfortunately, she isn't the only person out there who gets a dog (or has a baby) without thinking through what pet ownership (or parenting) really means. Sad, because the losers are the most vulnerable--defenseless animals and children.
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LOL, I was wondering who ugly was (or what - I had guessed it might be one of the many acronyms I don't know yet!).

I don't want to get her evicted, but I also don't want to get evicted! My housing only allows two dogs. Right now if someone were to come and call me on it I could say "I'm just dogsitting for a friend", but I can't keep her longterm.

I've put her name out there to friends of mine to adopt, and am waiting on answers; if I don't hear back from them by middle of next week then I will be contacting the Humane Society to do a surrender.
I got Bear from California Labrador Retrievers & More Rescue (www.labsandmore.org), I would recommend looking to surrender to them before surrendering to the humane society.

If you need/want help looking for rescues, I'd be more than happy to help. I just can't take on another dog right now. Lol!!!


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@lgnutah, I thought of that last night, maybe I was unclear when I asked her if she wanted me to bring the dog back and she assumed I meant immediately and got overwhelmed. I'm still in contact with her and plan on giving her another couple days and asking for a status update. That way if I was unclear she will have had a chance to calm down (and to adjust a little more to having a child to care for).

That's the thing that burns me the most about this entire situation. Brandy did nothing wrong. She's a great dog and she's the one, ultimately, who will end up suffering because of having this happen to her while so young. We got our Hiro from similar circumstances and he has horrible separation anxiety because of it.

@Brave, I've contacted Labradors and Friends already, and probably will contact one or two more.

I would contact her original agency but I know they're currently way overloaded with dogs (what rescue isn't, I know...).

Is it weird if after surrender I ask for updates on her? I really do like this dog, if there was a way I wouldn't be putting her up for adoption at all, but I don't know if that's odd or not.

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