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not in the christmas spirit

I have tried, really tried, there will be those that will not like this, but i just don't want to keep trying, with the shootings, mike being sick, and other stuff, i just want to hide, run away, my depression is getting worse, i am angry, and just need to say it.

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I am so sorry for all your sadness. It is ok to be sad even at Christmas time. You have so much going on so just be kind to yourself. Praying for you all.. God Bless..
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It's OK to be angry when there are things to be angry about, and it's OK to feel upset when there are things to be upset about. I don't think you should have to feel guilty on top of it for not having some kind of seasonal spirit.

I had a hell of a week too. I had an insane amount of work to get done, and we're both sick, so the tree has lights but no ornaments yet, and we didn't take our yearly Christmas card photo, which bums me out immensely.

You can't force yourself to feel a way you don't feel, and I don't see the benefit in trying. The only thing I can do (and your mileage may vary) is to take some actions to try to turn things around. I got the work done (phew!); we got a humidifier to take the edge off the coughing; and I'm reaching out to give you an internet hug.

And now I feel a wee bit better about this awful, awful week. Not much, but a bit. So I've got no secret methods to feel better or any way to help you, really, even though I would very much like to. I can, however, say that I feel for you, and I'd give you a hug if we were in the same room.
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So I've got no secret methods to feel better or any way to help you, really, even though I would very much like to. I can, however, say that I feel for you, and I'd give you a hug if we were in the same room.
Cyber hugs and sympathy is all I can offer. I am so sorry for all your troubles. I so wish I could help, but all I can do is keep you in my thoughts and prayers and you are always there.


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I can't help either except to say there are people here who care about you. I am sending a cyber hug.

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I just want to get it out, just to say it, hope those that i am around will understand.

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First let me say I'm sorry you are having a bad time of it. I think this has been a pretty crappy year, at least for me. Everyone seems to think that Christmas is one of those commercials you see on TV. It's not. My husband hates Christmas because he had bad times as a kid. It seems like every year it's a little harder to get into the spirit and we forget what a simple time Christmas should be. This year is harder for us as it's our first year without Cheyenne at Christmas and Tayla just had surgery yesterday and that was an expense we didn't plan on. So, it's okay to feel however you want to feel this time of year. Feel sad if you are sad and angry if you are angry. Very few people are having they types of Christmas celebrations you see on TV. I hope that 2013 is better for you.

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I'm sorry you are feeling so down. Sometimes it's hard to stay strong when everything around you seems to be falling apart. Be kind to yourself and take some down time. Sending you cyber {{hugs}} and positive thoughts.

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I absolutely understand how you feel. This has been a bad year, both personally and in general. The last few months have been really hard between the endless election, the hurricane, the various shooting rampages, etc. I've broken down in tears several times in the past couple of weeks.

What helps: 1) exercise - I always feel better after a long walk or run, or even doing an aerobic tape or yoga in the basement; 2) music - I have lots of Christmas albums that I can sing with, and my online Pandora station is mostly very mellow 3) hugs - my husband is very good about giving me hugs when I most need them. 4) Ben - he hates it when I cry, so when he comes around anxiously prodding me with his nose telling me to snap out of it, usually I start laughing, which helps a lot.
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I absolutely understand how you feel. This has been a bad year, both personally and in general. The last few months have been really hard between the endless election, the hurricane, the various shooting rampages, etc. I've broken down in tears several times in the past couple of weeks.

What helps: 1) exercise - I always feel better after a long walk or run, or even doing an aerobic tape or yoga in the basement; 2) music - I have lots of Christmas albums that I can sing with, and my online Pandora station is mostly very mellow 3) hugs - my husband is very good about giving me hugs when I most need them. 4) Ben - he hates it when I cry, so when he comes around anxiously prodding me with his nose telling me to snap out of it, usually I start laughing, which helps a lot.
I agree with the excercise. When I'm feeling angry or sad I take off on a run and just let the tears flow. I feel so much better afterwards!

goldensrbest I'm sorry your are feeling so low! But be rest assured you are not alone!

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