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post #21 of 30 (permalink) Old 12-21-2012, 05:20 PM
Here are some cyber hugs to you from me and Renny {{{{HUGS}}}} We're keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers.

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Sending hugs to you-I can't even imagine all you are going through. I would be happy to talk anytime you would like, too. So glad that you got your feelings out! I really do not have much Christmas spirit this year either.

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post #23 of 30 (permalink) Old 12-21-2012, 07:24 PM
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Your feelings are your feelings and they are absolutely to be respected.

I am so sorry you have had such a bad year and are feeling so down. I can completely relate to no Christmas spirit - I have none this year either. It's been such a sad past six weeks, and my dog had surgery AGAIN today. I usually love Christmas shopping, I love finding the perfect gift, I love the happy crowds. This year, I haven't even gone shopping. I have no decorations up in my house. And I won't be going to my sister's to be with her and her kids. The drive is too long for my sick girl, and I wouldn't dream of leaving her here. Instead, I'll just spend the next five days enjoying my time with her, feeling lucky that I have her with me.

Please don't feel you need to fight your true feelings. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks - though as you can see, you have a lot of support here! I really hope your coming year brings some happiness.

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post #24 of 30 (permalink) Old 12-21-2012, 07:53 PM
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A few years ago, DH was battling cancer at Christmas time. I remember feeling angry and bitter seeing other people going about enjoying the Holiday season. I remember feeling totally wiped because I felt I had to put on a happy face and make it something for our boys, and him. I also remember being absolutely livid at DH's family. We live an hour away and no one came to the hospital, offered to help etc...then they basically told us we were expected for Christmas day...that was it, I'd had enough. I lost it, and when I did I learned that neither my DH nor my kids expected any of that out of me, I put that pressure on myself, it was ok to be angry ok to throw my hands up and scream, and ok to just sit there and cry..I didn't need to pretend or try and fake it...

It is ok to not feel festive, to be angry etc...Don't be hard on yourself...
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I had a hell of a week too. I had an insane amount of work to get done, and we're both sick, so the tree has lights but no ornaments yet,
A few years ago, I could barely get the tree up, and getting the lights on was all I could manage. The next year I decided, you know what? I like just lights on the tree. So that's how my tree is this year too.
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Sending you cyber hugs- I totally understand your feelings and applaud that you were able to express it on the forum.
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I'm so sorry for everything you are going through. My mother's last few Christmas's went progressively worse. Christmas was her Holiday and she always made it amazing. She was the glue that held our family together and holidays are just not the same anymore. Her last Christmas was really hard as she passed away two weeks later. I really believe she held on just to get further enough past Christmas so that we wouldn't forever connect the two. I have my ups and downs with holidays. This past Thanksgiving was the worse one for me in awhile. I just didn't want to deal with it and was a mess both the day before and the day of.

I wish I had some better advice for you but I don't. I suggest just taking things easy and doing what you can. Don't force things...I tried that once - it totally backfired. I thought if I could be the Uber holiday person and make everyone's holiday the best ever that it would somehow make me happy/ Christmasy .... All it did was exhaust me and make me feel let down. There is nothing wrong with a small cozy Xmas with your son and your husband.

As for me Im doing better this year but I think a lot of that is thanks to my kiddies at school. It's hard not to like Christmas when you have a class of 4 year olds who have been excited since the day after Thanksgiving! Plus it helps that they are to young to know anything about the shootings in Conn. I'm very Thankful for that!
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post #28 of 30 (permalink) Old 12-22-2012, 08:53 AM
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I know this year has been a very hard and difficult one for you and your family.
Sometimes it seems like the world goes on with too many people not realizng that others are in need or are suffering.

As always, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Completly understand.... I have a ton of personal things going on and feel that same way. I MUST put on a happy face because all my children and grandchildren will be here tonight. It will be hard.
I don't have my tree or house decorated or nothing....
I have until 5:00!!!!!


I am so sorry for your troubles and hope you find some peace during this season.
Hugs to you.

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I miss you more than words can ever say, my sweet sweet boy...my forever heart boy.

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I just wish there was something I could do.

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